“She REALLY shouldn’t wear that.”
I’ve heard it. I’ve read it. And back before I really considered the impact of casual language on self-esteem, I even said it myself. But nowadays when I hear that phrase, I absolutely cringe. It strikes me as more damaging than many of the other phrases used to criticize style choices related to figure
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I do find it ridiculous when people say that casual language doesn't have any wider effect as it is supposed to be just that - casual. It's always riddled with privilege and very often completely ignorant.
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I think a better way to critique clothing choices is like what flumes said: focus on the pieces, not the person. Maybe say something like "Hm, I personally don't really like that color/style/pattern. Maybe try this color/style/pattern instead, and see how that works with the rest of the outfit." I think that's a better way to handle fashion critique, imo.
Critiquing someone's fashion choices can be done nicely, but again, I agree with flumes: focus less on the person wearing the outfit, and more on the individual articles of clothing. That way, imo, you do end up being more objective about it.
Idk, did that make sense?
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I don't need to be beautiful.
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My mother instructing me on what I should or shouldn't wear as a fat pre-teen/teenager (among other things she did/said, but this was major, too) led to years of my being ignored, having zero self-esteem, getting picked on and made fun of, and tons of other crappy shit. Because, you know, fat girls "shouldn't wear" shirts that aren't at least a size or two too large, and "must wear" pants with elastic waists (seriously, I don't even). (I have rebelled. Everything I own now fits me. I even show skin, and wear short sleeves, and skirts, and corset tops on occasion. And I look great!)
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