This is hard for me to pull off sometimes, but I mean, I'm fat. Why hide it? It's still hard though. There's legitimately so many people who want to say a lot of things about how your fat and your fat and this person's fat and how it's x,y,z on size, shape, value, and health.
Pear-shaped! Apple-shaped! Pineapple-shaped! To this day I have no fucking idea which fruit suits me best. I do enjoy blueberries but I don't think I've very blueberry shaped.
But seriously, I understand what the author is saying, but I also understand why people justify. Being fat is equaled to being lazy, unhealthy, un-sexy, dirty and ugly in this society and if someone can justify it in a way which society doesn't view them this way, I understand why people do it. I'm sure I've done it before.
So I guess I'm iffy on this. Yes, we should accept we're fat and be okay with that, but it's one of those easier said then done things, especially for women. Not that men don't have a certain level of shame for being fat, but not like women.
Yeah, it's one of those coping-with-oppression things, like women who say "Oh I NEVER have female friends, because women are catty bitches!" I get why you're going there, but please don't.
This is is a thing that I'm seeing all too often. I agree with her, I do, but you cannot go STOP DOING THIS AND DO THIS to people. It just doesn't work out like that. We don't magically love ourselves because we are told and we're not going to magically be able to be ok with ourselves. Being fat to me is not fine. I am told I have to justify it (though through different methods.)
You just need to say: Hey, I am fat and that is okay.
It's just upsetting it's not that easy especially for people like me.
This is true. You really can't just be fat in this society. You have to have a reason for it (and it has to be an acceptable one by society) or else you are a bad person.
We get this message from everything. From the way fat people are treated in public to media representation.
I understand that some people are able to overcome this, but for some people it's a long process and for others, they never get there.
Agreed. It's great that it worked for the author, but it doesn't work like that for everyone, and the way the article's written makes it seem like it does/should.
Yeah, exactly. I would love to be able to say, "I am okay with my body." I would love to be able to say, "Fat is okay." I just can't. Maybe one day I will, but it's a long, difficult process, and right now it's rather painful.
thank you! This blog entry is annoying, and I find it funny that her user pic makes it look like she is trying to hide the fatness of her face and appear thinner than she actually is... and that doesn't scream to me of someone so happy with their body. I used to do the same thing with myspace pics :p lol
the way this was written puts me off. it reads too much like "stop justifying your fat because YOU ARE FAT DON'T DENY IT" and not "stop justifing your fat because it's okay to be fat and you should love yourself as you are"
idk it just really bugs me and i don't like it, no sir i don't
I think this was the thing that bothered me most about the blog post. The author has good intentions, but it comes across quite...bossy. I understand wanting to combat fatphobia, but I don't think this is the way to do it.
i have a problem, in general, with people telling others how to feel about their bodies, regardless of intent. i agree with some of the things said in the article, but i really dislike the way it was presented. you can't "just stop" the way you feel, it's a process.
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But seriously, I understand what the author is saying, but I also understand why people justify. Being fat is equaled to being lazy, unhealthy, un-sexy, dirty and ugly in this society and if someone can justify it in a way which society doesn't view them this way, I understand why people do it. I'm sure I've done it before.
So I guess I'm iffy on this. Yes, we should accept we're fat and be okay with that, but it's one of those easier said then done things, especially for women. Not that men don't have a certain level of shame for being fat, but not like women.
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You just need to say: Hey, I am fat and that is okay.
It's just upsetting it's not that easy especially for people like me.
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We get this message from everything. From the way fat people are treated in public to media representation.
I understand that some people are able to overcome this, but for some people it's a long process and for others, they never get there.
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idk it just really bugs me and i don't like it, no sir i don't
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i have a problem, in general, with people telling others how to feel about their bodies, regardless of intent. i agree with some of the things said in the article, but i really dislike the way it was presented. you can't "just stop" the way you feel, it's a process.
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