glamour mag and the 'x' factor.
ok, so i got my monthly glamour in the mail and was really excited about the do's and don'ts, as it said on the cover, the issue was full of them. however, i was a little disturbed to read an article on women who blog. the article talked about how live journals and blogs and whatnot got people in trouble, even fired from their jobs because of things they wrote online. how sad is that? an online journal is a place where i like to write about whats up, read about my friends, and take cool quizzes to post to show how awesome i am. now i'm just about scared to write anything personal anymore. granted, i know its not safe anyway, but jeez. i'm freakin.
so i'm moving out of my apt. i have to write my landlord a little letter about it, and he won't be very thrilled to hear it, but i can't afford my place anymore. i'll be moving in with chad lemon and stacey daley, two fabulous friends of mine who used to cheer for eku and now coach cheerleading at matrix. its a two story, hard-wood floor house with 3 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms, and vaulted ceilings. i'm in love with it. plus, the rent is going to be the same as 1/2 it is here.
so, lets talk about ex's. i have few of them. one in particular likes to come into applebee's sometimes- i hate this because its weird how i was his girlfriend once and now i don't even feel comfortable saying hi to him. not like i'm losing sleep over this or anything, but you know. he's an 'ex'. then there's another guy i dated in high school whose band is playing at t-bomb's on january the 5th and 6th (g-funk). the last time i saw THIS guy, he was coked out, wearing repulsive clothing, (liam, you would have CRIED), and bitching about paying CHILD SUPPORT. yay.
have you ever had a significant other's ex get up in your business? once i dated a guy whose ex ended up pregnant by him.....while we were dating. this ended the relationship immediately. what if you had a boyfriend who's ex wouldn't leave him be? i mean, its perfectly natural for someone to say hi when you see them out or you know, send a christmas card. but some people really don't know how to LET IT GO. a guy i work with is dating the perfect woman, i mean i have not idea how he ended up with this girl-she's great! he can't let go of his ex though, and cheats on his girlfriend with his ex 2-3 times a week. i don't understand. she's an ex for a reason, you know? it didn't work out! why risk something wonderful for something......not so great?
perhaps we are more comfortable with what is most familiar. i guess its so common for people to still yearn after their exes because there used to be happiness there. chris and i are working out the kinks, we know we used to be happy together, we just fucked it up-wait, he just fucked it up-by letting other things get in the way. and by other things, i mean his flirtatious attitude. the problem is, when i moved on (and i did) it made me miss him more. i knew what we had was fixable, if both of us were willing to work at it. i didn't want to start something with someone else, someone i didn't know all that well who didn't know what i liked, didn't like, and didn't know my family, etc. i could fool myself and try to imagine everything being perfect, but it won't be. i'm always going to be a sarcastic bitch, and he will mostly always be a flirty know-it-all. i suppose its about sacrifice and compromise, like my neighbor/mentor really says. there aren't any birds or magic clouds, its about compatibility.
one last thing about the ex factor-i know i have a hard time letting go of mine. in fact, we have decided to give it another go. but another person i work with has recently become single had this conversation with me the other night: in order to keep her number the same, she has vowed to only have sex with people she has already had sex with-her exes. is this ok? i don't think so. i mean, maybe one ex, but not mutltiple exes. sex can be good, but its not everything. i think once she has sex with them, she will realize why they broke up in the first place. don't you agree? a cow can't graze in the same place forever.
ciao.
so i'm moving out of my apt. i have to write my landlord a little letter about it, and he won't be very thrilled to hear it, but i can't afford my place anymore. i'll be moving in with chad lemon and stacey daley, two fabulous friends of mine who used to cheer for eku and now coach cheerleading at matrix. its a two story, hard-wood floor house with 3 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms, and vaulted ceilings. i'm in love with it. plus, the rent is going to be the same as 1/2 it is here.
so, lets talk about ex's. i have few of them. one in particular likes to come into applebee's sometimes- i hate this because its weird how i was his girlfriend once and now i don't even feel comfortable saying hi to him. not like i'm losing sleep over this or anything, but you know. he's an 'ex'. then there's another guy i dated in high school whose band is playing at t-bomb's on january the 5th and 6th (g-funk). the last time i saw THIS guy, he was coked out, wearing repulsive clothing, (liam, you would have CRIED), and bitching about paying CHILD SUPPORT. yay.
have you ever had a significant other's ex get up in your business? once i dated a guy whose ex ended up pregnant by him.....while we were dating. this ended the relationship immediately. what if you had a boyfriend who's ex wouldn't leave him be? i mean, its perfectly natural for someone to say hi when you see them out or you know, send a christmas card. but some people really don't know how to LET IT GO. a guy i work with is dating the perfect woman, i mean i have not idea how he ended up with this girl-she's great! he can't let go of his ex though, and cheats on his girlfriend with his ex 2-3 times a week. i don't understand. she's an ex for a reason, you know? it didn't work out! why risk something wonderful for something......not so great?
perhaps we are more comfortable with what is most familiar. i guess its so common for people to still yearn after their exes because there used to be happiness there. chris and i are working out the kinks, we know we used to be happy together, we just fucked it up-wait, he just fucked it up-by letting other things get in the way. and by other things, i mean his flirtatious attitude. the problem is, when i moved on (and i did) it made me miss him more. i knew what we had was fixable, if both of us were willing to work at it. i didn't want to start something with someone else, someone i didn't know all that well who didn't know what i liked, didn't like, and didn't know my family, etc. i could fool myself and try to imagine everything being perfect, but it won't be. i'm always going to be a sarcastic bitch, and he will mostly always be a flirty know-it-all. i suppose its about sacrifice and compromise, like my neighbor/mentor really says. there aren't any birds or magic clouds, its about compatibility.
one last thing about the ex factor-i know i have a hard time letting go of mine. in fact, we have decided to give it another go. but another person i work with has recently become single had this conversation with me the other night: in order to keep her number the same, she has vowed to only have sex with people she has already had sex with-her exes. is this ok? i don't think so. i mean, maybe one ex, but not mutltiple exes. sex can be good, but its not everything. i think once she has sex with them, she will realize why they broke up in the first place. don't you agree? a cow can't graze in the same place forever.
ciao.