Sep 12, 2005 22:59
Dreams seem to let me down often, over and over. Sometimes its about friends, sometimes its about relationships, but its always about the same topic, love.
This feeling and mindset i haev about how friends should be, always leaves me unsatisfied. No one has lived up to this dream, not even myself. Should i just let go of this dream of love for friendships? Will then i be happier and more satified with them? This thought of letting go of my dreams for love, have never felt right.
I feel that a persons word should be important. When someone says something it always has meaning in some way to someone. If i say im going to do something for a friend then i should do it no matter what. I heard a story once at church and i really believe in it.
There was this guy who agreed to haev lunch with a friend on friday. A man came up to the guy and asked "Would you like to speak and reach over a thousand people this Friday?" He turned him down and went to lunch that day. I like it because our word should mean what we say. it didnt matter that he could do more good be speakign to all those people, it mattered that he did what he said, and kept his word. Our words should be handled with care. i believe even to the smallest of things like phone calls. If you say your going to call someone one night you should try your ultimate best to do so. And if you dont apologize, explain, and make it up to them. To most people this would be silly and they would say that im overanaylizing. That it isnt that big of a deal. But i feel if i start letting little promises go like ill call you tonight then how can they really trust me on a bigger issue. How do they know i will be there when they need me. I should be there for them, not for their big problesms they are facing or good times they are enjoying, but for them.
- and yes i have concluded that these feelings are worth my time of thinkging, I was only confused because someone would convince me that it didnt go get me anywhere except confusion
Another thing i feel that hsould be taking more seriously is really feeling for your friends. To find out what it is about htat that really makes you love them if you dont love them for the start. Because then we can do like the word says rejoice with those who are rejoicing nad morn wiht thoes you are mornign. I had a friend once who i broke dowbn in front of. i had my head down crying as i confessed my troubles and confusion to them. And when i usually cry i dont cry like my eyes water, i cry as if my heart was breakign apart and leaving with each tear. The most meanignful thing would of been for me to look up and shee them letting go of a tear because they felt my pain becaues they have such a love for me. Instead i caught them looking at the time.. Ive foudn out that its times like this that determine who your real friends are and who you really are friends to. because when comes to love there are no other variables in play. ITs just love or selfishness.