Through the black hole
Internet life throws up some strange things sometimes. Like today, you know how facebook tells you helpfully when it is one of your friend's birthdays? Well today I saw that it was the birthday of an old and dear friend of mine who I realised I hadn't heard from or visited her page for a while. So I thought I'd send her some birthday wishes.
When I got onto her page the first thing I saw was an e-card sent by someone today, but then I looked down and saw that the last entry was last August and that there were all these RIP messages. So she had died several months ago and I hadn't known or realised. Her son may not have had my email to tell me, or her password to write on her page or take it down. This can create real problems for those left behind I think. Although I'm sure you can contact facebook and tell them, but maybe he never knew she had a page even.
What I'm getting at is that it has created a strange state of affairs. That you find out these things by a random click online. I don't have his email or address so I can't contact him to send belated condolences. So much of what we do is passworded, so if we don't tell one person that we trust, once we are gone, they can have no access. Pre-internet I don't think situations like this would have happened.