Abstinence
On a women's forum, there was a recent discussion about birth control. A chassidic ( non-chabad) poster explained that her rebbi does not allow IUDs for halachic reasons and pills because they are not healthy. So what this woman does is (on the advice of her rebbi) go for multiple ultrasounds a month, monitors her fertility level in this way and abstains when the ultrasounds indicate that pregnancy may occur. When asked whether she has any concerns about the safety of ultrasounds, she replied: I don't have to be concerned about getting many ultrasounds for the simple reason that if the XXXX Rebbe told me to do it, it is not harmful.
Out of all the stupidities in this story, which one bothers you the most? Or are you not concerned at all?
Personally, I am pissed off that rabbis make up their own rules and then try to circumvent them and make their blind followers crazy in the process. There is nothing wrong with using birth control. But listen, Honorable Rebbi, even if you think that birth control is halachically problematic, why would you make the woman abstain? Do you not understand that this amounts to birth control? Do you think that is healthy for the relationship? Do you think that having multiple ultrasounds a month is somehow healthier than taking birth control pills?
In my next life, I am going to be a rebbi like that one, with many simple followers. I just want that kind of control.
Out of all the stupidities in this story, which one bothers you the most? Or are you not concerned at all?
Personally, I am pissed off that rabbis make up their own rules and then try to circumvent them and make their blind followers crazy in the process. There is nothing wrong with using birth control. But listen, Honorable Rebbi, even if you think that birth control is halachically problematic, why would you make the woman abstain? Do you not understand that this amounts to birth control? Do you think that is healthy for the relationship? Do you think that having multiple ultrasounds a month is somehow healthier than taking birth control pills?
In my next life, I am going to be a rebbi like that one, with many simple followers. I just want that kind of control.