Oct 04, 2009 19:52
... josh finally told his parents we were planning to get married next oct. Ive been bugging him about it so we could get a head count of guests so we could start looking at prices for venues. his mom was quick to hug and congratulate but then she ruined it by immediately following the congrats with " ill pray you come to the church before that" sigh. i guess i shd have expected as much.. it didnt bother me as much as it bothered josh. he's pretty pissed and unfortunately he's also driving back to school now. his mom called me a couple minutes ago asking where etc i told her we were looking at vintage gardens in modesto etc ..well she suggested her mom s place that does have a nice backyard (it is its a nice yard ..) and she s offering me her wedding dress which is nice but... still makes me shudder. then she wanted to know if i was worried which i said no... so she said she was worried for us considering we dont know where he will be living/working without or without insurance etc etc which is all fine and dandy, normal parent concerns .. she wanted to know who would be marrying us which i said " i dunno" cause i don t XD part of me would love to ask margie from five points but i dont think she would want to and i also don t think joshs family would appreciate it..especially if they found out what she is LOL. or what we are?! sigh. come to the church...hmm...no.
right now i know to them it seems random and sudden when in fact we ve been planning to marry for a very long time. we ve been together 7 years.. and yea we ll figure out the whole living/working issues of course... i guess i just wanted a better more comforting response... my parents immediately seemed to take it as a joke seeming to say "yea right" with their body language and then only voicing "we dont have much money"( yea like i didnt know that..) no congrats nothing.. and then from joshs side we get congrats but then the pressure of them wanting us to be catholic (insert insane laughter here) I just wanted someone besides just me and josh to think this would be positive. no nothing is set in stone there is always a possibility of something happening (mostly financial) that could change the date but thats all there would be to change. 7 fucking years and we re still seen as teenagers that dont know what they're saying. they'll all have to deal, i know that. im just..sad, that no one seems to actually support our desire....