Unfriending
This is a rare open post to say that things have gotten really difficult for me lately, and I've removed some friends and comms from my flist. I also quit karate, gave away a bunch of stuff, and am reshuffling virtually every area of my life. I haven't decided whether I'm deleting my journal or not, but I am giving strong consideration to
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And in fact, I'm not doing this to make ANYONE stress over whether they're posting enough or commenting enough. But I AM tired of signing on to this account which I used to think of as my "main" account and realizing that I made 50 comments to other people and got maybe 1 back, or had 60 friends and got zero comments on my last two posts, or whatever. I mean, I can understand that not everyone is interested in everything I have to say, but there comes a point where I just have to say, "Okay, this isn't working."
I've felt increasingly like I'm wasting my time here with my so-called friends who, in the long-term, over months, have had a pattern of having nothing to say to me no matter what I say to them. You've got stuff to say. You reply when I leave comments. I don't feel like when I talk to you I'm getting nothing but the sound of crickets in reply. A lot of others who were on my flist? Well...crickets. And some of them are nice folks, and I like them, but if they don't have anything to say to me, then why in the world am I keeping them in my journal?
It's confusing, because some people seem to be polite to me or even act as though they like me when I interact with them in person, but online give me the impression that they wouldn't piss on me if I were on fire. That's not why I'm blogging. I can talk to myself without putting fingers to keyboard (lord knows I do it all day long) and save the time and effort. Either they're not reading me or they don't feel what I have to say is worth the effort of commenting, and either way, that's not what I'm looking for in the blogosphere. I've stopped visiting other people's journals for the most part because guess what? Most of them don't bother replying to my comments. So why keep them friended to my journal? Wasn't the point of friending journals so that you'd be in touch with others who were sort of compatible, for better discussions? I'm being ignored and they're not making any effort to make it appear otherwise. Screw that. There are a handful of folks who don't fit this, and you're one of them. A couple others are maybe not ignoring but just don't use their journals often and I've deleted them because I feel it's pointless to have them friended; they don't post and don't comment so why bother keeping them? I'm simply cleaning house in this and other areas of my life. It was time.
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