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[omgimsuchadork]

My family was here yesterday, but I'm pretty sure they're gone now. I grabbed some dinner last night and my mom told me there was cake in the fridge. "Sweets are the last thing I need right now, I ate so much crap over the weekend." "That's okay, I'll just give it to the kids

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THE SUN IS SUPPOSED TO CHANGE THAT'S HOW YOU KNOW WHAT DIRECTION/TIME IT IS. THAT IS THE ENTIRE POINT. :D And yeah miles I mean roads are far apart aren't they? Even with interstates you only have two/four lanes and then random side roads going off into the country.

Yeah! If you're stuck or in trouble or lost you can call the highway patrol and they'll come get you. They all drive trucks anyway, it's not like they can't get to you. And I mean LOL yeah I'm thinking specifically of the cops in the part of Iowa my family's from and nothing ever happens in those towns.

Ahahaha I figured you were but I'm still serious about Appalachia. And possibly the Ozark region of Missouri/Arkansas. There is some serious Deliverance shit that goes down in those parts.

IT'S HARD NOT TO KNOW EVERYONE'S BUSINESS BECAUSE YOU SEE THE SAME DAMN PEOPLE EVER DAY. Like I'm used to going to a random stranger, asking for help with something mundane, and then getting invited to dinner/offered a bed to sleep in/given free food or labor or some other ridiculously hospitable offer that you politely decline until they give it to you anyway. I've heard that's not really what happens in cities. Thus, city people are scary. :')

[omgimsuchadork]

I know but then you go "oh I'll just go with the sun behind me. It rises in the east, so I'm going west." but then in the evening, all you've done is go round in a circle. Nothing accomplished! OMG highway exits are supposed to be a mile apart, not streets! What's in all that space?! I mean, why bother to have the roads if there's nothing there? 9_9 /s

Oh don't worry about me finding myself in Appalachia or the Ozarks. You've scarred me forever, and I'm going to stay within sight of a major city if not actually in the major city for the rest of my life. XD

but i saw the same people at work every day for 2 1/2 years and i didn't know much about them Why would they offer you things? Favors are favors, they don't need to be repaid. That seems pushy and rude, if you ask me! And they don't know who you are. You could be a crazy person, you could steal things from their houses while they're asleep. And you don't know who they are, they could poison your food, do a crappy job of whatever was offered and you can't track them down if someone gets hurt later.... If everyone in the city is a stranger to you and you can't trust them, why can you trust not-city strangers? That doesn't make sense, they're both strangers. And beds to sleep in doesn't happen in the city because we're all living in 12x10 studios with hardly enough space for all our crap, let alone another human being. I think I have a cat somewhere around here.... XD

[retroviral]

I'm really enjoying comparing notes with you here, haha. Okay so, no, highway exits are definitely not a mile apart unless you're near a city. On I-80 through Iowa/Nebraska sometimes they're 30+ miles apart unless you count exits to county roads that lead to nowhere. And people need those roads to get where they live! My grandma lived about 15 miles from her nearest neighbor when I was growing up. We needed the space between for livestock and crops. That's why when you fly over the Midwest it's all nice neat little squares.

LOL no, you should hit the West or the North sometimes, particularly Colorado/Wyoming/Montana. My favorite thing is driving along an isolated highway and seeing nothing but countryside for miles and miles because, as previously stated, cities make me really claustrophobic, haha. :')

What but how? Girl I can even tell you what kind of underwear my coworkers prefer! Then again I'm super nosy and chatty and that's just kind of how we are, haha. Wait wait what, it's rude to, like, fix someone's car and then insist they come over for dinner? Really? :'D Cause I mean that's just kind of what you do, you give everything you can to help someone, even if it's a little above and beyond. Nobody's expecting repayment. And seriously every time that's happened to me they'll either do an excellent job or find someone who can for you. You just gotta have a little faith in people! 99% of the time they're good and awesome and really just want to help you out. I think it's just easier for me to trust people like that because it's the kind of people I grew up around and the kind of person I am personally, and I associate people living in a city with not giving a fuck about you outside of the necessary "Okay you're good to go great peace out" and that's really scary to me, haha.

[omgimsuchadork]

"On I-80 through Iowa/Nebraska sometimes they're 30+ miles apart unless you count exits to county roads that lead to nowhere."



How ... I mean, can't like... a bunch of people all just work on one farm?! That sounds so unbearably lonely, and I'm not one for being social. to be honest, every time i've flown over the midwest, i was asleep. early flights and getting up about four hours before takeoff because of all the stupid airport rules means i'm probably asleep before i've left eastern time

why do you CARE what kind of underwear your coworkers like?! how does that conversation start? how does that make even a bit of impact on your life? you know how kids in school always complain that you'll never use math? no, they're wrong. THIS is something you'll never use. and if you do because you're buying underwear for your coworkers, that's freakin' WEIRD, man.

or maybe that's normal social, i don't freakin' know. when i meet new people, i don't ask them anything, ever (because it doesn't occur to me to do so). i sit there and answer their questions all night.

It's not the doing that's rude, it's the insisting. Haven't you ever heard of "no means no"? Well, shit, I wonder what it must mean when I say no, then! /s It makes me, at least, feel uncomfortable, and then FORCED into doing something I don't want to do just to get someone to shut up (and I've done that before. It's not a fun thing to do and makes both parties miserable). Kindnesses are cool and all, but I'd sooner whip out my wallet in thanks than anything else (go BUY dinner with money, that way you can do what you have to and I can do what I have to and neither of us wastes any time. Ain't nothin' wrong with a little efficiency! I'll revisit this). I don't care if my dollar winds up down a stripper's g-string; I DO care if I unwittingly bring a kidnapper into my house and then whoops my niece and nephew are gone.

"I associate people living in a city with not giving a fuck about you outside of the necessary "Okay you're good to go great peace out""

There's a method to that madness. In a city, things are always happening, and you always have something to do or someplace to be because there are so many people but there's only so much time in a day, right? It's not caring about other people so much as it is covering one's own ass first. Because who gives a fuck about other people if you're struggling? Who's to say they're going to help you? A lot of city people -- especially here -- come from all walks of life and cultures and shit where it's not always the greatest idea to trust people you're not used to. You get inherent culture clashes and segregation on top of all the other stuff, so it's a bit ... I guess you just learn to leave well enough alone after trying so much and not getting anywhere. It's not scary, it's just how people are, tribal-like, you know?

It's when people are in your business -- don't you have things to do? -- and overly nice -- like children. It seems fake; they must want something -- that I get suspicious.