She fell down again...

[omgdiepls]

My mom fell down again… broke her foot. She needs to be wheelchair bound at this point as she doesn't have balance anymore. She almost busted through the glass of the coffee table. She disclosed that she fell 3 times during spring break too but didn't say at the time because she didn't hurt herself. I am so scared for her.

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[vixi]

It sucks being scared for her.. I know how you feel. I don't know if you feel this way.. but I know how I have felt in the past. Sometimes the being scared is not only for the loved one.. but it's being scared for us. That is more than ok.. *hug* Being over 3k miles away.. it is really hard .. She is telling you the truth.. maybe not as soon as you would like her to.. but she is keeping you informed. Our moms just love us that much. I read about the insurance/work thing. Did your mother ever take out disability insurance from LCSD? They will grant a "leave of absence" to employees who are in predicaments like your mom.. where they are still "employed" just not getting a pay check. I don't know if that info helps.. I know how awesome LCSD medical benefits are..

Your parents don't really know me.. but I am in driving range.. is there anything I can do? Even if it just dropping off some Jason's Deli or something small to help?

Call me.. btw.. I think I might be walking down the aisle in 12-18 months.. (this is the shallow, girl talk that we all need sometimes :) ) It makes everything that has ever happened in the past.. worth it.

[omgdiepls]

I admit, I am scared for her and for me.. what this means for my family. I am hearing information from the world's worst communicators. My dad is hard in denial. He still says he doesn't think she has ALS... my sister, who doesn't listen, and has a slight problem with the truth.. also with sibling rivalry.. I really think she is skewing things in her mind to make it a 'they love me best' situation.. which is really really fucking scary. And of course, my mom who doesn't communicate unless you pull it out of her.. and she's dealing with enough.

PS - she fell again after I wrote this post.

She will most likely be able to go onto disability and straight to medicare. Getting her to talk about what benefits she has is difficult. I don't think she really understands it, so when I go over what her rights are, etc..

Thank you for the offer. My sister is moving back in with her kids at the end of the month. She is unemployed at the moment, and has been partially supporting her for the last 5 years.. he finally drew a line and said ... hey I need you to move back in. The most random part about it is that I heard a totally different side of it from my sister where he called her and had this weird emotional breakthrough where he talked about his feelings.. said he needed her help taking care of mom.. It seemed fishy at the time, but .. we're back to the whole sibling rivalry-favorite child thing..

My parents are pretty private people and it just seemed funny based on her history. I talked to my dad and he was like, I don't want her to move back in but I can't support her if she doesn't. I don't wanna support her forever. So the truth lies somewhere in the middle of all of that, I'm sure.

My concern is.. if her personal motivations are so coloring what she's telling me about this.. what else are they coloring? I can't crow bar it out of my mom. My dad wont even acknowledge it.. she's my only reference.

Wait. Aren't you still married? Who would you be marrying? I clearly fucking missed some stuff. Call me when you can. My new number is listed on facebook. :-D