Why are you going victim? Relationships are based 10% on what you have in common and 90% on the FEELING of being close, which has to be fudged and faked a little in the beggining. There was a reason that guy responded with "you're always in your room". If people don't get that feeling of closeness with you, they won't invite you to things. It's a strange, ironic sytem, but it's our culture. You have to create the feeling of closeness, it doesn't naturally happen. But that's kind of a cultural secret that no one really talks about, especially people who already have a lot of friends. They're just like, "I don't know, I just get a long with them" If you want friendship, fake friendship. Say hi all the time when you see them and smile. Go out of your room all the time to see what's up, make a snack and offer it, suggest watching a movie or going to a concert or making dinner together. Fucking invite people to do things with you even if it's an incredibly simple suggestion. A simple suggestion is best actually because it's more comfortable. If you just act like it'd be natural to hang out with you, then it will be natural and people will do it.
we go to taco bell together 2 times a month - its not like we're strangers... cassie was my roomate last year.. i remember her telling me "your one of the coolest people ive met" she used to tell me about the drama going on in her life
brian and i were laying out by the pool together for a while when it was warm... he used to live downstairs from us last year.. its not like we are strangers
there is a little group of people that hang out.. im kind of on the edge of it... im not on the "inside" but im not on the "outside" and those people were all at our house.
me and my roomies swap cds, and IM each other frequently.. we DO say hi when we see each other... we ask about each others day.. but its just recently i feel on the "out"... at first i thought it was my imagination but its not.
anyways.. blah - im way over it im just ognna work on relationships i have with other friends..
Relationships are based 10% on what you have in common and 90% on the FEELING of being close, which has to be fudged and faked a little in the beggining. There was a reason that guy responded with "you're always in your room". If people don't get that feeling of closeness with you, they won't invite you to things. It's a strange, ironic sytem, but it's our culture. You have to create the feeling of closeness, it doesn't naturally happen. But that's kind of a cultural secret that no one really talks about, especially people who already have a lot of friends. They're just like, "I don't know, I just get a long with them"
If you want friendship, fake friendship. Say hi all the time when you see them and smile. Go out of your room all the time to see what's up, make a snack and offer it, suggest watching a movie or going to a concert or making dinner together. Fucking invite people to do things with you even if it's an incredibly simple suggestion. A simple suggestion is best actually because it's more comfortable. If you just act like it'd be natural to hang out with you, then it will be natural and people will do it.
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we go to taco bell together 2 times a month - its not like we're strangers... cassie was my roomate last year.. i remember her telling me "your one of the coolest people ive met" she used to tell me about the drama going on in her life
brian and i were laying out by the pool together for a while when it was warm... he used to live downstairs from us last year.. its not like we are strangers
there is a little group of people that hang out.. im kind of on the edge of it... im not on the "inside" but im not on the "outside" and those people were all at our house.
me and my roomies swap cds, and IM each other frequently.. we DO say hi when we see each other... we ask about each others day.. but its just recently i feel on the "out"... at first i thought it was my imagination but its not.
anyways.. blah - im way over it
im just ognna work on relationships i have with other friends..
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