Darling, I know ex-ACT-ly where you're coming from. I'm the same type of nurturing person you are. THe things I"m going to say are things I really wish someone would have told me. First off, very few people see beyond the end of their own nose. Most people are so selfish and self-oriented, that they simply forget that there's someone on the other end of that handout. The thought that MAYBE they should reciprocate rarely comes to mind. I've found that midwesterners are the people most likely to be polite and considerate and are in the rare group who will usually return the favor or feel indebted to someone who gives.People from larger cities will invariably look out for number one and when asked to do a favor will bitch and whine till they get something out of it. Limit yourself to doing nice things for people to once in a while. Make sure you're getting looked after. If you REALLY want to do nice things for people, do it for people who deserve it. Volunteer at Norlite and play checkers with the old folks', or sign up for Storytime at the childrens library. Sponsor an underprivileged family for christmas, give some time to working at St.Vinnies. These will all satisfy that "I need to give" itch and you'll REALLY feel like you're making a difference. The other thing I've learned at a painfully high cost is this. You know that old saying "Who watches the watchman?" Well, same thing goes for us. "Who cares for the caregiver?" Themselves. Go for a walk and get some ice cream for yourself. Treat yourself to a movie alone (Way more fun than it sounds: You can see whatever you like and not have to listen to anyone complain), get yourself a massage or a manicure. And try to hang out with other people as caring and giving as yourself. On that note, can I take you out for coffee sometime tomorrow morning?
Oooh my goodness, thank you. I needed to hear someone else say this.
I'm in class until 10:40 today, but if you'd like to get coffee some afternoon soon, I'd love to sit down and catch up. 906 362 2037-- give me a ring whenever you feel compelled to sit and bond. :) <3 <3
Here here. Sweetie, same thing happened to me in college. For example, I'd host study groups (which were mostly for the other people's benefit since I had really great notes) and people would devour everything I had in sight. It was so frustrating. Rarely did anyone ever bring their own snacks and again - I was doing this to HELP my classmates..to help them, yet no one even so much as offered to help me. Your mentioning of the jellybeans totally brought back that memory.
*hugs* Just do take care of yourself and pamper yourself in lieu of trying to get it from others. I highly agree with going and getting a massage! Talk about having someone pamper you for an hour. :D Yum.
If you need to vent, you give me a call or send me an email ok sweetie? *hug*
First off, very few people see beyond the end of their own nose. Most people are so selfish and self-oriented, that they simply forget that there's someone on the other end of that handout. The thought that MAYBE they should reciprocate rarely comes to mind. I've found that midwesterners are the people most likely to be polite and considerate and are in the rare group who will usually return the favor or feel indebted to someone who gives.People from larger cities will invariably look out for number one and when asked to do a favor will bitch and whine till they get something out of it. Limit yourself to doing nice things for people to once in a while. Make sure you're getting looked after. If you REALLY want to do nice things for people, do it for people who deserve it. Volunteer at Norlite and play checkers with the old folks', or sign up for Storytime at the childrens library. Sponsor an underprivileged family for christmas, give some time to working at St.Vinnies. These will all satisfy that "I need to give" itch and you'll REALLY feel like you're making a difference.
The other thing I've learned at a painfully high cost is this. You know that old saying "Who watches the watchman?" Well, same thing goes for us. "Who cares for the caregiver?" Themselves. Go for a walk and get some ice cream for yourself. Treat yourself to a movie alone (Way more fun than it sounds: You can see whatever you like and not have to listen to anyone complain), get yourself a massage or a manicure. And try to hang out with other people as caring and giving as yourself.
On that note, can I take you out for coffee sometime tomorrow morning?
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I'm in class until 10:40 today, but if you'd like to get coffee some afternoon soon, I'd love to sit down and catch up. 906 362 2037-- give me a ring whenever you feel compelled to sit and bond. :) <3 <3
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*hugs* Just do take care of yourself and pamper yourself in lieu of trying to get it from others. I highly agree with going and getting a massage! Talk about having someone pamper you for an hour. :D Yum.
If you need to vent, you give me a call or send me an email ok sweetie? *hug*
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