Feb 09, 2009 18:58
As a heads-up, this is going to be a hastily-written post since I should be doing math (or chemistry for that matter) and dinner will be soon. I wanted to post it anyway.
One thing I've been working on recently is getting used to being myself. I will always be me, and that's the way it is. As Kendal Payne said when she wrote, "I've been everybody else, now I want to be someone closer to myself," acting like someone else is just too much work and eventually when your farce falters, it will only be harder to pick up the pieces and regain your own identity.
I will always be "poor, obscure, plain, and little". I can exercise or overeat, but I cannot change the shape of my body. I can stretch myself as hard as I like, but I cannot grow older any faster than is intended. I cannot change my situation in life, and I cannot change the people who surround me.
As much as it is overused, I want to employ the 'serenity prayer'.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Where is the use in wanting to be different than I am? I'm tired of realizing how many things I can't change, and moreover, I'm tired of seeing other people and wanting to be more like them then like me. I say this not to incur reassurance that I am fine the way I am. I have no doubt that the way I am is quite sufficient for where I am, and the things I am doing now.
This quote from Wicked, "I'm through accepting limits 'cause someone says they're so. Some things I cannot change, but 'til I try I'll never know," has me quite intrigued, however. Almost as quickly as I am learning how things are, I am learning how many things are not the way I had thought they were. I find myself constantly saying to myself, "Wait, really? How did I not know this before?" (even aside from the second president of the United States).
I finally realized that "cool" people aren't really all that interesting (yes, I know! You tried to tell me!). I finally realized that I get out of my education what I put into it, and that it's only by my own discipline that I will learn anything or get anything done. I finally realized that making friends is something that takes time and effort, and that neglected relationships take work to rebuild. I finally realized that not everyone sees things the way I do, and that while sometimes you can explain your view to them, sometimes they will never fully understand what you are saying. I finally realized that people aren't necessarily scary. And I finally realized that paragraph breaks can make your writing a lot easier on the eye.
Everyone's said it before me, but maybe it's something that everyone has to learn for him or herself: growing up is figuring out that some of what you thought all along is right, and some of it is only partially right, or downright wrong. Maturing is all about figuring out which is which, and what to do about it. Blending what we know with what we see and what we are told, and- as Relient K said of college- learning how to live your life.