I cant decide...
Okay so an old friend of mine from hair school added me to her friends on myspace... and I had recently heard of the loss of her child at birth. I was excited to see her face again because it had been so long... but when I went to look at her pictures... She has sevral pictures of her with her baby... who had passed at birth.
As I was looking at his tiny blue lips and white pale skin, I started to cry... but at the same time I got that feeling that you get when you see a fetus in a jar at a freak show, and I cant decide if its right to have pictures of your dead child posted on the internet... Understably, it was the only way she saw the baby... and I can understand wanting to see him, but jesus christ. Its not sick and disgusting, but it just feels sort of wrong. I cant imagin the sadness this poor girl is feeling, and I get that those pictures may be healing for her... but its a dead baby. And should she have posted them on myspace rather than keeping them to herself for her own mourning? I suppose whatever works for her, but I feel so strange about the whole situation. and then, of course she added me so I accepted... but you can never leave it at that when you find an old friend... so I had to message her, and instead of how have you been's I felt the need to express my regards for her loss... So what a way to find an old friend again... Maybe it will help her to know that people do care about her.
I hope this dosent offend anybody... I just am not sure how i feel about the whole thing...
-Amanda
As I was looking at his tiny blue lips and white pale skin, I started to cry... but at the same time I got that feeling that you get when you see a fetus in a jar at a freak show, and I cant decide if its right to have pictures of your dead child posted on the internet... Understably, it was the only way she saw the baby... and I can understand wanting to see him, but jesus christ. Its not sick and disgusting, but it just feels sort of wrong. I cant imagin the sadness this poor girl is feeling, and I get that those pictures may be healing for her... but its a dead baby. And should she have posted them on myspace rather than keeping them to herself for her own mourning? I suppose whatever works for her, but I feel so strange about the whole situation. and then, of course she added me so I accepted... but you can never leave it at that when you find an old friend... so I had to message her, and instead of how have you been's I felt the need to express my regards for her loss... So what a way to find an old friend again... Maybe it will help her to know that people do care about her.
I hope this dosent offend anybody... I just am not sure how i feel about the whole thing...
-Amanda