Do you think she's being purposefully aggressive or is she just making inappropriate comments on people?
Do whatever is going to make you most comfortable at work and with yourself. If that means telling her yourself to stop it, or going to a boss, or whatever. Cause that's the whole point right, to just make yourself comfortable enough to do your job. No need to add to your anxiety by doing something you don't want to or making the situation tenser.
But still you know, you're going to have to deal with that kind of stuff for a long time I'm afraid. I see it all around me and I don't think it's going to go away. But awkward comments and opinions are better than blatant hatred at least I guess.
I think she was just making inappropriate comments but it was clear that she didn't agree with gay couples saying "wife" and "husband". Its fine for she to go home and talk about that but not at the workplace espesially unknowningly to a gay person.
I think there is no getting over knowing something about someone you disagree on. But I'm just going to see what happens I guess and keep looking for a new job. I know it could have been worse, I just haven't had that happen at my place of work yet.
Is she saying it in a way that shows she doesn't like gay people or is it more that she is weirded out by them and perhaps hasn't had much experience with them?...not that that is a good excuse, but maybe she is super sheltered and someone needs to teach her that she can't say shit like that. What did she say after you said she should just get used to it?
I would go higher up if it's really bothering you. Ontario has anti-violence in the workplace legislation in EVERY workplace and that includes homophobic comments EVEN if they are not directed at you, but create a toxic work environment, which is obviously happening.
From what was said and the tone she put it in, she for sure doesn't like gay people and like a lot of older people probably hasn't even been around many of them. I think she knew from the expression on my face that I was offended, so she walked off after my comment. Weird though before I even talked to my district manager, they talked about it so by the time I gave my half it was a "she said it this way, not that way " arguement. I felt like I made a lot of excuses for this incident in my head that maybe I took it the wrong way but I know I didn't but I also don't think I'm going to make a bigger deal out of it unless she makes any other inappropriate comments. The company doesn't seem to care about having a non-experienced manager.
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Do whatever is going to make you most comfortable at work and with yourself. If that means telling her yourself to stop it, or going to a boss, or whatever. Cause that's the whole point right, to just make yourself comfortable enough to do your job. No need to add to your anxiety by doing something you don't want to or making the situation tenser.
But still you know, you're going to have to deal with that kind of stuff for a long time I'm afraid. I see it all around me and I don't think it's going to go away. But awkward comments and opinions are better than blatant hatred at least I guess.
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I think there is no getting over knowing something about someone you disagree on. But I'm just going to see what happens I guess and keep looking for a new job. I know it could have been worse, I just haven't had that happen at my place of work yet.
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I would go higher up if it's really bothering you. Ontario has anti-violence in the workplace legislation in EVERY workplace and that includes homophobic comments EVEN if they are not directed at you, but create a toxic work environment, which is obviously happening.
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