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i finally told surfer guy that i couldn't date him anymore....that i needed to just be friends.
i can't just hop into bed with some random guy without feelings. one nite stands are different, i've had that and there's no committment. but he just kept wanting to get to know me better, date me, etc. and if i'm goign to have a relationship with someone, i need to be friends with them first and foremost. i can't just start becoming friends with someone i'm sleeping with. one thing needs to take precedence over the other...and that is friendship. so, since he apparently wants to be in it for the long haul...i told him we're cutting the hooking up part out of hte situation and just going to be friends. that if we want to be together in the future, that's a different story. that i wanted to get to know him more, etc.
i prewarned him, when we started hooking up that i don't have any emotions for a relationship....so, i've been honest form the getgo. so, now....i'm free. i don't have any attachments anymore and i'm so happy. i feel so much lighter. i don't think i was ready for any kinda relationship. phew!
i can't just hop into bed with some random guy without feelings. one nite stands are different, i've had that and there's no committment. but he just kept wanting to get to know me better, date me, etc. and if i'm goign to have a relationship with someone, i need to be friends with them first and foremost. i can't just start becoming friends with someone i'm sleeping with. one thing needs to take precedence over the other...and that is friendship. so, since he apparently wants to be in it for the long haul...i told him we're cutting the hooking up part out of hte situation and just going to be friends. that if we want to be together in the future, that's a different story. that i wanted to get to know him more, etc.
i prewarned him, when we started hooking up that i don't have any emotions for a relationship....so, i've been honest form the getgo. so, now....i'm free. i don't have any attachments anymore and i'm so happy. i feel so much lighter. i don't think i was ready for any kinda relationship. phew!