Fucking 'Mishap....'scarletfblMarch 10 2011, 16:10:09 UTC
This. Besides saying nothing at all (which would have been better, tbh), he could have said that what happened between him and Rihanna is something that he'll have to reflect on and grow from for the rest of his life, but it doesn't define who he is.
Re: Fucking 'Mishap....'scarletfblMarch 10 2011, 19:23:02 UTC
Your sarcasm is much appreciated. I'm making a fucking statement about how Chris Brown SHOULD sound if he could actually grasp the magnitude of what he's done. It won't always define who he is, and it shouldn't but it pretty much does right now, no argument with that.
God, your stupid ass fucking comment really pissed me the fuck off with how you misinterpreted me.
Re: Fucking 'Mishap....'scarletfblMarch 10 2011, 19:18:55 UTC
I don't believe it should. It's not something that a person (the perpetrator) can or should just move on from, but it shouldn't define who he is. Just like being an [recovered] alcoholic, or an abuse victim doesn't define who a person is for the rest of their lives. The event, the ordeal, the trauma is something that will stay with them forever in a way, and they can learn from it (depending on what side of the issue they're on).
I personally don't think that Chris Brown has learned much from what he did to Rihanna (and the consequences thereafter) because, judging by the fact that he can't even articulate what happened without sounding like an ass, he still has a lot of growing up to do. He needs to grow up before he can fully grasp what he's done, in my opinion.
Re: Fucking 'Mishap....'glowing_dragonMarch 10 2011, 19:50:33 UTC
I don't know if you have lived through some sort of domestic abuse, but I have - I say my ex and all people like him should be defined by that for the rest of their lives. As for me, I'm a survivor and will NOT let it define ME for the rest of MY life! (even though I'm reluctant to get into a new relationship - and this happened in 2008!)
Re: Fucking 'Mishap....'scarletfblMarch 10 2011, 20:03:14 UTC
I have (my mother and my stepfather [physical], also several male family members involving sexual abuse). Exactly right. I don't let what has happened to me define who I am. I myself am reluctant to get into relationships, and being intimate with someone is something I can't even grasp right now.
Don't get me wrong, or take this the wrong way (please), but as far as I know, What Chris did to Rihanna happened once (statistics will say that a pattern of behavior likely culminated in what happened, but I'm going on what I know :/). Not that it's any less wrong or had any less of an impact on Rihanna, but if that's true, I have more hope that he can reform himself, over a person who has a pattern of abusing people.
Repeat offenders, abusers, people that kill or horribly scar (emotionally/physically) their loved ones are irredeemable. Absolutely. I hope I didn't come off as saying that EVERY abuser can earn his way back into the good graces of anyone or anything.
Re: Fucking 'Mishap....'glowing_dragonMarch 10 2011, 20:06:28 UTC
No, you didn't come off as saying EVERY abuser can earn his way back into the good graces of anyone or anything. All I know is that if Chris Brown does truly reform himself, this will be good for his own sake. Doesn't really seem that way now, though... =/
Re: Fucking 'Mishap....'celtic_thistleMarch 10 2011, 20:54:24 UTC
I completely agree. DV is incredibly serious. The statistics are staggering. Make an example of him, and of Mel Gibson, and Charlie Sheen, and Sean Penn.
P.S. (and a Fuck Off)scarletfblMarch 10 2011, 19:42:26 UTC
Before more people come at me, understand that I was stating what Chris Brown SHOULD say if he could grasp the magnitude of what he's done.
Generally speaking about everything, I'm not automatically giving him a fucking pass, or whatever the fuck that first person who replied was implying. Don't come at me like you know what Rihanna feels/must have felt. I'm not negating that, or belittling that.
Chris Brown still has a long way to go, and I don't think he's grown enough as a person to even comprehend what he's done to Rihanna. However, I do think there's a point in his life, after he's learned, made amends, bettered himself (if he ever does) that he can not be define by this, that he won't have to forever be condemned by society. That he can just be Chris Brown.
Not sure if that will ever happen, it's up to him to start the process.
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...But noooooo. >_>
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God, your stupid ass fucking comment really pissed me the fuck off with how you misinterpreted me.
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I personally don't think that Chris Brown has learned much from what he did to Rihanna (and the consequences thereafter) because, judging by the fact that he can't even articulate what happened without sounding like an ass, he still has a lot of growing up to do. He needs to grow up before he can fully grasp what he's done, in my opinion.
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Don't get me wrong, or take this the wrong way (please), but as far as I know, What Chris did to Rihanna happened once (statistics will say that a pattern of behavior likely culminated in what happened, but I'm going on what I know :/). Not that it's any less wrong or had any less of an impact on Rihanna, but if that's true, I have more hope that he can reform himself, over a person who has a pattern of abusing people.
Repeat offenders, abusers, people that kill or horribly scar (emotionally/physically) their loved ones are irredeemable. Absolutely. I hope I didn't come off as saying that EVERY abuser can earn his way back into the good graces of anyone or anything.
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Generally speaking about everything, I'm not automatically giving him a fucking pass, or whatever the fuck that first person who replied was implying. Don't come at me like you know what Rihanna feels/must have felt. I'm not negating that, or belittling that.
Chris Brown still has a long way to go, and I don't think he's grown enough as a person to even comprehend what he's done to Rihanna. However, I do think there's a point in his life, after he's learned, made amends, bettered himself (if he ever does) that he can not be define by this, that he won't have to forever be condemned by society. That he can just be Chris Brown.
Not sure if that will ever happen, it's up to him to start the process.
Take that as you will. I'm done.
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