yeah... as much of a POS as gavin may be, i haven't seen him shit-talking her anywhere. maybe i've missed it. but this kind of stuff is awful for their kids.
Gavin was shitty to her, so I don’t blame her for still feeling hurt. But at the same time, they’ve got kids, and it reminds me of the saying “love your kids more than you hate each other”.
Plus the “I’ve got a better man now” just screams surejan.gif
I wish someone would split open my POS ex's brain and shove that saying into his rage-filled smooth brain before he ruins his relationship with our son.
He's an alcoholic with narcissistic personality disorder, so he would say nothing except to call me a drug-addicted slut who abandoned her family (I'm a post-my-kid's-bedtime stoner who started dating after we split) because I couldn't be with him anymore, as he has done both privately and to our son for the past 15 months. Unfortunately "be the bigger person" isn't a phrase he's familiar with. My son asked me last week the night before he went back to his dad's custody if it was possible to not have to live with his dad half the time, so I fear his actions have already gone past the point of no return.
why doesn't your son want to go there? i remember when my oldest was a toddler, he showed me and told me as best as he could that he didn't want to visit his father anymore. turned out his stepmother was abusing him.
Because he's sarcastic, passive aggressive, and doesn't show any interest in what my son is into. He thinks kids are to be molded into what we think they should be, not encouraged and supported as they shape themselves. It's a fundamental difference of opinion that I didn't think to have a conversation about with him before becoming parents, but it's led to my son feeling low self esteem when they're together. I've been very open with my son that I am ready to take whatever legal steps are necessary if he tells me he wants to go down that path, so hopefully he knows he has that option if he really wants it.
i'm sorry. idk how old your son is, but i do know it's unlikely he'll tell you to take any legal steps. you could petition for supervised visitation or even fewer visits, though. it sounds like it might be worth the try. i wish you both all the luck.
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He’s actually done the opposite. He def needs to take more responsibility and I’m not giving him too much credit but it’s something.
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Plus the “I’ve got a better man now” just screams surejan.gif
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