my whole fyp on tiktok is 4b and .. yeah. if the relationship im in ends at some point i really think i will be going down that road. (although admittedly will be much easier for me as a 35+ woman versus when when i was in my 20s and boy crazy)
TIL what 4b is. I feel really good about not having children and luckily my partner feels the same. Two friends of mine said they wanted to have kids within the next four years and now that's not happening. It's too dangerous where they live.
same re: not having kids. i really hope i don't have to deal any unwanted pregnancy but knowing that i most likely wont be in the position to have to navigate a complicated wanted pregnancy is a small relief
it's quite literally insane how many people are basically putting their entire lives on hold because of this pos in power. and it's not even like most people can / should move states to live somewhere safe. those states will just entirely be run by red.
I'm in the UK and though things were fucking awful under Tory reign, religion has never (and I don't think it ever will) had the power over politics and law.
I don't think I was ever boy crazy tbh. Dating was never at the top of my list. I had a few crushes when I was younger and a couple boyfriends - like dating when I was in high school and it was super easy because I would just get asked out in real life and whatnot.
However, I am starting to wonder if my standards are just too high. I see stuff about women being fearful of voting against their partner's wishes and nonsense and I would never put up with that. I also don't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about or respect me. So many women put up with controlling & abusive relationships and I know I just wouldn't be able to do that.
I've tried online dating as an adult and it just hasn't worked out for me thus far tbh. Either men aren't interested in me or the men who do seem to be into me are not people I'm interested in pursing a relationship with. I just don't meet men now in real life who are interested in me because I don't have much of a social circle I guess.
I want a relationship because I am lonely, but
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Same hat, Pikachu. I could've written this, although I haven't dated due to rl things/depression/anxiety in my 20s. Dating apps are tiring and half the time I'm just like "Him?".
I think a lot of people settle, and unfortunately they settle for people who they feel they have to hide from. I stonewalled this guy I've been talking to because he told me he thinks Trump is entertaining, and I straight up poured a cold bucket of water on him by telling him I don't find anything funny about that man, regardless of whether he's acting like an idiot. He doesn't seem to get the implications of what he's said. (We're not American. American politics still impacts us. He disagrees.)
Don't sit here and wonder if your standards of respect and autonomy are too high, Jesus. I know what you mean and I agree with you, but written that way normalizes other women's low ass standards.
I would 100% support my daughter if she went that route. I've obviously given birth, but if something happens to my partner, I'm done with men. I'll become an old cat lady instead.
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I'm in the UK and though things were fucking awful under Tory reign, religion has never (and I don't think it ever will) had the power over politics and law.
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Our committee was a pic of plush sharks in a circle, but they'd make as good of, if not better, decisions than the general American public.
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We'd allow male allies after being vetted by a committee.
Don't. Or at least don't let them live there and make them have to have a woman escorting them at all times.
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I don't think I was ever boy crazy tbh. Dating was never at the top of my list. I had a few crushes when I was younger and a couple boyfriends - like dating when I was in high school and it was super easy because I would just get asked out in real life and whatnot.
However, I am starting to wonder if my standards are just too high. I see stuff about women being fearful of voting against their partner's wishes and nonsense and I would never put up with that. I also don't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about or respect me. So many women put up with controlling & abusive relationships and I know I just wouldn't be able to do that.
I've tried online dating as an adult and it just hasn't worked out for me thus far tbh. Either men aren't interested in me or the men who do seem to be into me are not people I'm interested in pursing a relationship with. I just don't meet men now in real life who are interested in me because I don't have much of a social circle I guess.
I want a relationship because I am lonely, but ( ... )
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I think a lot of people settle, and unfortunately they settle for people who they feel they have to hide from. I stonewalled this guy I've been talking to because he told me he thinks Trump is entertaining, and I straight up poured a cold bucket of water on him by telling him I don't find anything funny about that man, regardless of whether he's acting like an idiot. He doesn't seem to get the implications of what he's said. (We're not American. American politics still impacts us. He disagrees.)
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Don't sit here and wonder if your standards of respect and autonomy are too high, Jesus. I know what you mean and I agree with you, but written that way normalizes other women's low ass standards.
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It's not wrong to have standards. You shouldn't have to subsume yourself for companionship.
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I saw some girlies on TikTok saying on top of 4b they're going to start only buying products from women-owned companies whenever possible
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I would 100% support my daughter if she went that route. I've obviously given birth, but if something happens to my partner, I'm done with men. I'll become an old cat lady instead.
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