Salma Hayek talks about her marital finances

[milotic2]

Salma Hayek Pinault and her billionaire husband keep their finances separate, she says. “I support a lot of the aspects of my life and myself.” 🔗 https://t.co/7Ko3Wf42MV pic.twitter.com/5u4rqBjqWZ
- The Wall Street Journal (@WSJ) October 29, 2024
In an interview with the Wall Street Journal, Salma revealed that she and her husband never signed a

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[anterrabre]

I can relate to what you're saying. I'm also an old(er) who has seen women in similar situations who ended up absolutely fucked (sometimes by dude completely screwing them over, sometimes by situations like hubby dying with a shitload of debt the partner knows nothing about). If Salma's anything like my mom they're probably living off his money (yachts, mansions, all those fabulous clothes, travel, etc) while her coins are going in separate accounts for her, and he's fine with it, so good for them.

If I could bestow any wisdom to the younger generation of women it would be "Make sure you always have your own." I don't care if you're marrying a Jeff Bezos fucker; make sure you have your own regardless. If he has you on an allowance, sock a certain amount away; if you're working, continue to do so because any man pressuring you to quit your job and independence so he can "take care of you" is doing so to benefit himself, not you. Granted, there's some men who genuinely have (and love) that whole "Provider" mindset who WANT to take care of their SO and won't fuck her over in the event of a divorce but considering the knuckleheads out here that's not a choice that I personally am not willing to take.

[genbu_no_miko24]

Yep a lot of older women advised my mom to always have your own money AND an emergency stash in case of xyz event.

Plus men can be petty and stingy and wanna leave you penniless out of pure spite lol! You gotta look out for yourself.

[anterrabre]

exactly; my mom was a Boomer and always told me the same, and The Silent Generation (who often had to but up with all sorts of shit in their marriages) even more so. There's a lot of women who want that Trad life who are in for a rude as fuck awakening. I mean, even Mormons are getting in on that influencer coins because it's one of the few ways they can have their own money.

[genbu_no_miko24]

Sometimes I wonder if some of these tradwife girlies on IG come from well-off family or at least they got a security plan in there.

But yeah the tradwife style doesn't seem all that appealing. The pastoral and bakery aspect sounds nice but the rest...naaaahhhhhhhhh no thank you!!

See that's what I mean with the mormons girlies, they probably realizing that the financial incomes starts feeling nice after a while so I wouldn't be surprised if some are stashing it away.

[winter_lace]

My (tail end of the Silent Gen) mum straight up didn't marry because of the bullshit.

[nomoneyfun]

So, I am a big believer in making sure women have their own when they are partnered with men, but that means avoiding a man who doesn't make it clear through their actions that what's "his" is ours. A generous man is more valuable than a wealthy one. The admission that men can't be trusted to not financially abuse a woman is damning. Women are making even more sacrifices to partner with men and the option to NOT partner with them isn't presented as a valid one. Salma thinks not signing a prenup is proof of their commitment, but to me, it signals he didn't want to make sure she was taken care of financially in the event their marriage doesn't work out.

TL;DR but I just would not be partnered to a man who would not financially protect me from the jump. I would not be giving an interview while married to a billionaire about providing for myself and how my hubby finds my ambition "sexy." She could've kept this to herself.

[anterrabre]

Gotcha. I think our difference comes from the fact that you would just be careful in your choice of partner in the first place (or go on your own), while mine stems from a place where even if dude wants to take care of me financially with no bullshit I'm still going to get mine because there's always that little voice in the back of my head saying "What if?"

The fact that more and more women are choosing to go it alone rather than deal with bullshit makes my heart sing. Things are different now even from my generation; ya'll have OPTIONS, and I'm glad that more women aren't willing to put up with less.

[ursulavosyem]

The allowance thing is a huge sign on its own. In a hypothetical where I had no income of my own and was bound to a dude who tried to give me an "allowance," I'd feel so insulted/belittled like, I'm not a preteen learning how to do chores for the first time, I am your PARTNER who RUNS this household and makes sure all the care-tasks are completed and I NEVER get a break from this job maintaining the household. Hypothetically, lol.

My sister is married to an okay dude on paper, but I have been losing my mind over snippets I'm learning about her financial life over the past 2 years: she has no idea what's going on, no idea what loans/debt she's signed on to, and they're not only mortgaging their own house, but his parents' as well; not only financing his car, but his parents' FANCY cars (plural!) on top of that, plus a ton of other things... and she has a well-to-do career/income. She's smart enough to know better than to let someone else control her finances, and at first I thought she would eventually try to learn more about it with some prompting, but I think she's scared to ask at this point. And that makes me spiral into thoughts of well, what else is going on, then? Because that's how a lot of problems start for couples, keeping each other in the dark financially. He has so much more leverage right now, because he has all the keys to their life, and she doesn't.