FKA Twigs on "Man Enough" podcast + D'Angelo Wallace covers her case

[irajaxon]

A couple of days ago, FKA Twigs appeared on the podcast Man Enough, as part of DV Awareness Month. The hour-long discussion focused on her "journey of healing, resilience, and reclaiming self-worth".

A clip of Twigs discussing the banal nature of the abuser's playbook has gone viral:



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[ursulavosyem]

Kind of in a weird headspace, but do want to say first that I'm loving seeing D'Angelo's videos on here, he's touching on so many relevant topics with celebrities and influencers that really impact so many people; gossip isn't just a frivolous thing (although of course it can be) but I guess I'm trying to say that there's some pretty interesting discourse going on across a broad range of topics/experiences, and combining ONTD and YouTube commentary is a nice mix sometimes, for me.

Anyway, I have not been physically abused, but am processing emotional/psychological manipulation by someone I care about dearly. I can't even type out "abuse" regarding my experiences, and for a very long time I felt (honestly still feel) desperately guilty for even associating them with that in my mind. And I'm constantly comparing my situation to others who have "been through worse" like my experiences aren't "enough to qualify." Like, reading about a snapshot of Twigs' experiences is horrifying and I immediately jump to being grateful that I haven't been in that situation, and then train myself to downplay what I've dealt with. Most of us do, I think. So incredibly impressed with her, it's hard enough when you're not in the spotlight to admit that what happened to you is awful and unacceptable, but in her position she has thousands upon thousands of people blaming her for this shit, and it just keeps going.

[hamnoo]

It took me years to use the term "abuse" for my first relationship. Even the word "toxic", while earlier, took years. I could only say that it was bad, and that is still true as well.
In the end, in my case, it came down to my own low self-esteem. I saw everything about my partner, how trauma from childhood/ substance abuse issues/ psychological issues impacted their behaviour, but couldn't grasp that even if there are a hundred excusing circumstances, even if the intent wasn't there as clear as you would expect from a cardboard cut villain, it was still abuse simply because I was abused.
Wishing you strength and happy days :)