Saoirse Ronan Gags Men On The Graham Norton Show

[hisjulliet]

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- scarlett 🍒 (@rvdlovess) October 26, 2024
On the most recent episode of the Graham Norton show, Hollywood’s recent IT white boy Paul Mescal brought up that “no one” will think of using their phone to defend themselves against an attacker, while him and the other men on the couch

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[lamppost1911]

Why did I think this was posted and didn’t feel like searching and commenting?? I love her in general but this whole clip…I felt her frustration listening to them and wanting to butt in then saying that after he was done.

[lamppost1911]

I hate that I am “lucky” to say I’ve never been sexually assaulted beyond a slap on the ass or unwanted kiss but I am reminded of the time that I was literally over it and some guy had the audacity to say these awful sexual things to me (and he was with a crowd of people including women!) I threatened him with my Swell bottle and I got called a crazy bitch but I was honestly proud of myself.

Now I’m just venting. I told another story to friends and my (female) friend asked what I was wearing and I said leggings and a hoodie and she victim blamed me!!! What???

[steffi_333]

I’m also “lucky” enough to have mostly only had bum grabbing and unwanted cat calling/staring (a couple other things have stuck with me but I don’t really want to go into them), but I’m keenly aware that it can easily be so much worse. And they started when I was a child which is just so freaking gross.

You should be proud for defending yourself! It’s a really hard thing to do - we’re hard wired to not make a fuss or draw attention, but if we’re being harassed that’s exactly what we need to do. They call you a crazy bitch to deflect their behaviour once people start looking. I’ve done martial arts and self defence classes on and off for years and also proud of myself for it! Every woman should do it.

And fuck that person for asking about the clothes. Eugh. I’m sorry that happened.

ETA I’m also venting now lmao. Honestly men just make me so damn angry.

[lamppost1911]

Vent away!!! It helps you and all of us who have dealt with it but haven’t been able to talk about it.

I was honestly proud of myself when I threatened that guy with my swell bottle lol. Of course I initially felt like I overreacted but damn, can’t I just go to the corner store without being bothered??

I’m so sorry you’ve dealt with harassment as well. Especially so early on. Kids should not have to deal with that.

[irajaxon]

your story reminded me of a time when i and my 2 friends - all 12-13 years old - went to the mall as to have a little tween hangout out and walk around. we started being followed by a group of men who were probably in their 20s and they started "flirting", i.e. saying gross things. all 3 of us were uncomfortable, so after a while i turn around and scream at them to leave us along and have some shame because we're kids.

my friends said i shouldn't have done that and that *i* embarrassed them. i was no longer invited to mall hangouts.

it was an unexpected reaction, but now i understand them. most women and girls are sadly taught that staying quiet and barring through it is the only way to deal with it, so by being a loudmouth i was "threatening" their safety. it's really warped and unfortunate.

it's not always i yell back or confront men directly - that can be dangerous - but in some situations where i judge that the guy will backoff in embarrassment or shock if i confront him, i do it.

[lamppost1911]

Ok my phone decided to refresh so you may receive a similar message twice but omg I hate that you had to deal with that but GOOD FOR YOU for standing up like that. I get both you and your friends. They wanted to play it cool but you shouldn’t have had to deal with that, Ughghgh.

I hope that now, if they remember, that they appreciated you standing up for you all. Even if they don’t, I am applauding teen you for doing that. Seriously.

[lamppost1911]

That was honestly super brave of you 🧡

[healthypanda]

You were a badass protecting your friends. Fuck those creeps.

[healthypanda]

I feel the same way :( Like, a dude slapped my ass in a bookstore and an older family friend/elder in my congregation was really creepy with me when I was 13...and I feel grateful that this is the "worst" I've experienced compared to other women :( The bar is truly in hell.

[lamppost1911]

And I just realized the way we both downplayed our assaults…a friend told me about a time her drink was spiked and she was about to literally be raped but her friend walked in and stopped it and she goes “I know it’s not the same” when that it literally so fucking scary!

[healthypanda]

Omg 💔😱 that is fucking horrifying. I'm glad she's ok.

[lamppost1911]

Right??? I was like, “insert friend name” that is fucking terrifying and you have every right to express however you want to. I’ve followed up with her and she may have sought therapy or talked with others about it but she’s kinda shoved it aside and if that’s what she needs to do, then that’s fine. We are very open about other things (we’ve gone through similar other stuff) so I hope she knows I’m here for her.

[healthypanda]

You sound like an awesome friend <3 I hope she's doing ok. I'm sure that's something that's going to take awhile to fully unpack.

[lamppost1911]

True true. The way she told me about it like it was a trip to the grocery store…I just hope she knows I’m here for her.

[lamppost1911]

older family friend/elder in my congregation was really creepy with me

I can’t imagine how traumatizing that is. That was someone you probably trusted, or were at least told to trust. I’m so sorry.

Why do we feel “lucky”??

[healthypanda]

Thank you <3 And I'm sorry you've experienced what you've gone through too <3 I appreciate your sharing your story so we can be like, "Wait...this is MESSED UP." The bar for for men and their behavior is so, so, so low.