Chappell Roan Cancels Festival Performance in NYC with One Day's Notice

[jamie_gw]

Comments

[beanstew]

i'm sorry i know people will find this offensive (and i actually do agree that people neglect their mental health) but whenever someone uses this phrasing to not do something they're supposed to be doing, they come across as weak, manipulative and whiny little babies. grow up and do your job. everyone has problems

[ladychips]

wow

[skyler_white_yo]

I’m not fond of the “just suck it up” mentality in general. I used to be a “just suck it up and do your job” type person until I burned out hard and bad. My mental health was so deteriorated that I was out of work for close to two years. It was not fun.

It’s one thing to have an ugh don’t wanna go to work today, but you go because it’s your job. It’s another thing to try to push through an illness and make yourself worse because you can’t give yourself a break and a bit of grace.

[bluestoplights]

I think people also need to practice more self compassion when they can, although it's not always economically feasible under our capitalist hellscape. It doesn't have to be all of nothing, but people gotta give themselves some breaks. And I think it gets harder to do that the more you put yourself under an external or internal microscope.

[ladyjj]

'Give yourself the grace you give others' has become a daily mantra.

[eerilybeloved]

Burn out is so harmful. I hate that a lot of people, (especially employers) don’t take it seriously

[belintuchiha]

I have given myself a break for four years, but I still can’t go back to work to be honest

[bluestoplights]

on one hand: there are plenty of people who have to go to work and do their jobs while dealing with mental health shit, and chappell is absolutely insulated from the economic struggles and realities of that

on the other: they shouldn't have to, and we need to take mental health as seriously as we do physical.

[beanstew]

hm i think i agree with you overall. i just don't think that cancelling huge performances with a day's notice fits into this. ideally yes you would be able to take a break from work if you're struggling, but the world has to keep turning and if you're making other people's lives harder, that's something you do have to take into account. if she needs time off to rest and reset (and hopefully stop engaging so much online) than absolutely do that, but do it properly.
what she has done here will not help her with her mental health and so i find the kind of phrasing she used (and that is so popular atm) self-blind at best

[bluestoplights]

Yeah IA, ultimately it's harming other people (her fans, the folks working the concerts who need the money, etc) who are more precarious and don't have the privileges and luxuries she does. I still empathize with her, but this model of cancellations isn't sustainable. a couple of cancelled shows won't fix the bigger problems at hand here, which is her exposure to Too Much. She has to find a way to dial back her consumption of that or to take a sustained break entirely.

[beanstew]

yep exactly!

[the_wicker_man]

I think maybe there are people who can do things "properly" and people who can't, right? Like Simone Biles, would taking time off "properly" have been your suggestion instead her dropping out of the Olympics before last?

[villanellesalt]

Some of you truly lack empathy.

[bellapisces]

Yeah, everyone does have problems. And most of us obviously don't have the "luxury" of taking a mental health break from work/responsibilities. But we should all practice empathy. Try it.

[pulseraroja]

The one who sounds weak and manipulative here is you

[godrevypoint]

This is the mentality I unfortunately have developed but I’m in healthcare and I can’t exactly take a day off if I’m not in the right headspace. For people that do have the luxury to do so with their jobs, like Chappell, I support prioritizing yourself. I chose to work in healthcare (specifically, to be a physician and we don’t have unions like all other jobs), so I’ve chosen to accept the “suck it up and do your job” but I also completely understand that it’s not healthy and that not everyone can/wants to be like that. I think empathy is important and is anyone going to die if Chappell puts herself first? No. So she doesn’t really have to explain herself beyond “I cannot do this right now.”