Lily Allen: “I love my children but they ruined my career”

[milotic2]

Lily Allen insists 'you can't have it all' after choosing motherhood over pop-stardom: 'I love my children but they ruined my career' https://t.co/tsiSAXazTt
- Daily Mail Celebrity (@DailyMailCeleb) March 12, 2024
After being considered one of London's it party girls, Allen has admitted her 2 daughters have ‘totally ruined’ her pop career because she

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[sarahvma]

There's another rancid discourse happening in which a semi-famous Twitter guy decided to drag KC Davis's TikTok video where she says she's decided to stop doing "imaginative" play with her kids (ie. tea parties, pretending to be a lion) because as a SAHM it was burning her out. She still does crafts, bakes with them, takes them to museums, reads to them, etc. But decided she just got nothing out of imaginative play and let them know that she enjoys watching them play but didn't want to participate.

Online Dad has spent nearly 72 hours rabidly attacking her and the comments have been vicious.

Is Online Dad a stay at home parent? Nope. He's a Professor with subsidized housing, subsidized childcare, and a somewhat flexible schedule.

Oh, but he's a feminist and very woke, of course.

There's just such a feeling of female-presenting parents/moms can NEVER win. We can't refuse to do f*cking anything or random people from the internet will call us monsters. I see zero issue with what Davis said, but he's now on Day 3 of "f*ck this random lady I found online".

[belle_chouette]

Bet if she did do the imaginative ppl would rip her for spending TOO MUCH time with her kids and that they need to learn to play by themselves 🤦🏻‍♀️

[merel_93]

Men are the worst. Teaching your kids to play without a parent is valuable to them too. Also, you don´t need to say yes to everything your child wants. NO is also a valuable word to get served as a kid

[ahkna]

I actively wanted my parents to leave me alone to read as a kid. I didn't want to be around the other kids, I didn't want to be forced to socialize, I wanted to play by myself and read by myself.

[the_pinkdress]

My mom was a SAHM and she never played with us like that, and she does say now it was because she found it boring and didn't see the point. (Also she was busy doing other stuff lol). I don't get the big deal and wasn't offended by it, because as a kid I never expected her or my dad to play with us. If we were playing, we just played on our own, with siblings, or with friends we had over. Tbh, it would've been less fun if an adult or parent tried to play because we were children? I even find it weird now how much parents seem to watch children's TV with their kids. We always watched a movie or show on our own. Like, we had things we were allowed to watch but my parents wouldn't sit and watch with us unless it was a family movie night thing.

I also find the thing about SAHMs having all this performative 'care' time to be weird, too. My mom didn't do elaborate crafts or try to make domesticity all pretty and soothing tbh. It felt more like- my mom runs the household, my dad goes out to work. I'm not saying it's an ideal system or without its problems but I didn't see it as 'happy homemaker who has tons of time to bake from scratch and design educational games for her children'. I'm not trying to say it's the most time consuming or demanding job ever or anything, but there is also this romanticization of the SAHM as though they have to overcompensate, maybe because the reality of it isn't that fun or perfect anyway.