Riverdale's KJ Apa is a single dad

[therearewords]

Riverdale’s KJ Apa and Clara Berry Break Up After 4 Years https://t.co/pUpfaT4Vfc
- E! News (@enews) March 6, 2024
- Less than four years after confirming their romance, the French model revealed that she and the Riverdale star are no longer a couple

Comments

[champagnexdream]

"I think it's better to have parents, who are separated, who are happy and who can be the best version of themselves, than staying together in a situation that it not working."

Agreed most of the time, but it just really depends on the situation. Volatile relationship? Yes. Volatile relationship where the financial strain will not be bad with a separation? Extra yes.

Lukewarm yet respectful relationship where the financial strain will be bad with a separation and overall it will affect the child worse than if their parents stayed together? Eh. I think if that's the case and the couple mutually agrees to see other people to get their needs met and stay happy in that part of their life, it can work. Every situation is different.

[simprov]

yeah, i agree that it depends on the situation. my parents wanted to get divorced when i was 16 but they waited until i was 19 and off in college so it didn't uproot my life. they simply fell out of love and are still great friends to this day. i'm very thankful they waited until i was older and didn't make me have to deal with that transition and travelling between two homes as a teen.
now, if they had wanted to get divorced when i was 8 or something and waited ten years or longer then idk if i would say its a good idea. parents are individuals as well and idk if i think people should stay in an unfulfilling relationship just because they THINK its better for the kid.

[champagnexdream]

Great example, and yes agreed re: the last part too. Kids are so much more resilient and intelligent than many adults give them credit for. I wish my parents had split when I was younger sometimes but at other times I understand that the financial strain would’ve been too difficult for my mom, and my dad wasn’t abusive or anything, so I get it. It’s just hard to judge without knowing and living in the entire situation

[sarahvma]

I think the problem is that the resentment will always come through

[champagnexdream]

You’re probably right, but if the split is when the kid is almost an adult and the financial strain would be harder, which would be the worse case, you know? I think it just really depends, and the other user who replied to me is a good example! Or maybe if one parent comes out and they still get along great as friends or something. Who knows.

But in Clara and AJ’s case, def think they made the right decision

[donaestrangera]

Yeah, my parents fall into the latter scenario because of the financial strain and the strain of caring for my youngest sister who is severely disabled and still lives with them even as an adult. And while me and my other siblings wouldn’t care if they got divorced, that youngest sister that lives with them is the one who would care and who would struggle the most emotionally/mentally if she had to split her time between them.

When I was younger I used to resent my mother for staying in an unhappy marriage and letting my dad treat her the way he does (he’s not abusive at all, he’s just kinda shitty) but now that I’m older and can see things through her eyes and understand how scared she is of living alone with my sister with no help to take care of her, I have more grace for her.

[champagnexdream]

Age and maturity really change our views man. I’m glad you can see it this way now - I’m sure it wasn’t easy for her but she did the most selfless thing for her family!

Unrelated but I used to wonder why women sometimes settle for kinda lame dudes to have kids with. But after I went through fertility issues I’m like damn, I can’t even judge if a woman getting older with a bio clock ticking is like “I mean, this’ll do” lol