The Love Bomber Trope: Rom-Com Dream to Total Nightmare

[theemii]

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Love bombing has been a huge topic of conversation in recent years, and if we take a closer look, we might start to notice that the TV and movie characters who we thought were so lovable and charming are actually doing this too - from self-identified “nice guys” like How I Met Your Mother’s Ted Mosby to full on bad guys like Chuck Bass from Gossip

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[funhouse]

i thought love bombing was about people who do grand gestures which make you feel obligated to comply/reciprocate

have i been wrong this entire time

[ginainabottle]

That isn't something the love bomber demands from you at first, their thing is to make it look like they do it just bc they're so into you, not bc they expect something in return. They make you feel incredibly loved and special, and out of nowhere their behavior completely changes & that's when they'd make you feel obligated to do something, in order to get the treatment/"rewards" they're now denying you.

[squirrels_oh_no]

Yep, it's also why it's so prevalent in cults and cult recruiting.

[ginainabottle]

This is both incredibly obvious and completely shocking to me bc I never made the love bombing connection outside "romantic" relationships. Makes perfect sense.

[squirrels_oh_no]

This short video talks about how stuff like love bombing is used in cult recruitment, among other things. Cults and relationships with narcissists are very much alike!