Vanessa Hudgens Marries Cole Tucker in Tulum, Mexico

[just444]

Vanessa Hudgens and Cole Tucker are married! This past weekend, Hudgens married the professional baseball player in Tulum, Mexico. Get all of the details from their wedding in the heart of the Mayan Jungle: https://t.co/AlcRLuX9Xn pic.twitter.com/T2zERkmLbf
- Vogue Magazine (@voguemagazine) December 6, 2023

source 2the wedding dress was Vera Wang

Comments

[peddlestools]

kinda hate destination weddings.

don't make everyone travel. just have the wedding where the majority of your friends and family live.

wait, am i starting wedding wank? idk if this is an unpopular opinion.

[ionadelfina]

No, I agree with you. I got invited to one and swiftly declined. I just wasn't willing to use PTO on someone else's wedding lol. Plus, plane tickets were like $900 on the cheap end; having to pay for that, hotel, a gift, an outfit, food, spending money.... it was asking too much.

I think if you have your heart set on a destination wedding, you have to be ok with the fact that a lot of people may decline.

[peddlestools]

i think it's a dick move to ask people to spend that money just to see you get married. i mean, i'm sure heteronormative rituals are a big deal for many people, and you want to see your friends and family happy and celebrate with them, but not on my dime. i pick something from your registry i can afford, and that's all the money i want to spend at your wedding.

i guess it's okay if it's a small wedding and you can afford to fly everyone out and provide accommodations, but even then it's a big ask for people to spend all that time traveling. and also i feel like that money could be better spent elsewhere, like an open bar, better catering, a live band for the reception etc etc

[odetothefool]

some people purposefully have destinations so that less people will show up. i feel like tat that point you might as well just be honest with people and say "hey we're having a very small wedding. i hope you understand" and leave it at that. but i'm assuming some people still want to invite others to lessen hurt feelings and because they still want the wedding gifts

[peddlestools]

and because they still want the wedding gifts

idek if you should have a registry. asking your guests to spend a small fortune getting your ass there, using your vacation days (if you have any), finding a place to stay for the wedding... idk. i'm not paying for your le creuset

and it feels passive-aggressive to invite people you don't really want there at your wedding? but still want a present? weird.

[odetothefool]

yeah i think it's rude too. like if you really dont want your guests there just dont invite them c'mon now. i would literally rather not have an extra wedding gift than do a weird invite dance where i dont actually want someone to come where but im inviting them anyway out of greed.

[sweetwaterlane]

Those sound like shitty friends. I think the custom is for guests of destination weddings to be told 'your presence is our present' and not expect gifts. And if people who can't make it get gifts it's not different than people who can't come to any wedding deciding whether or not to send a gift. If people are really inviting guests they don't want to come that sounds like taking a big risk of having unwanted guests.

[odetothefool]

oh i don't know anyone who's done it - i've seen people on the internet say it lol

[sweetwaterlane]

Most people who didn't come to our destination wedding didn't send a gift or even a card, except for maybe family members out of state who prob wouldn't have come anyway. Maybe because i'm not in a rich circle though. ::cries in poor:: But we also saved a lot by having a small destination wedding with fewer people (only $10k which by wedding standards isn't bad) so I didn't care. I'd rather spend less and get less, We all get to keep our money and avoid waste, cheers!

People are really greedy when it comes to weddings though so I guess i can't be too surprised. I follow the subreddit on wedding attire approval and some people share absolutely ridiculous color schemes the bride has requested guests adhere to. I'm sorry, i'm not your prop? Now I have to buy a new dress in addition to my gift? Mmm..

[sweetwaterlane]

I had a destination wedding but I was also totally fine with most people not coming. Discussed it with our closest family and friends in advance, had <30 people, and it was just what we wanted. If more people we'd invited could've made it that would've been fine, we didn't invite anyone we wouldn't have been happy to have show up, but we wanted something intimate.

IMO destination weddings help people get out of coming that don't really want to but would feel obliged, so it's a win/win for everyone.

[callonme_84]

Or you foot the bill

[vanouria]

mte, go elope in your destination and then come back home and have a reception with the people who live near you. best of both worlds, it's not like you get to enjoy your guests at the actual wedding ceremony, so they don't need to be there - you hang out with them at the reception, and you get to essentially have two celebrations

[peddlestools]

yes! and i think people you invite who don't live near you understand and care that they can't bring the wedding to everyone.

like, i feel you should pay for the bridal party or immediate family to fly in if they're out of state/out of the country, but that shouldn't be too many unless you're mormon or some shit.

[sastra_fuss]

destination weddings only work if everyone involved is rich. other than that, just elope

[peddlestools]

even if everyone is rich, i feel like it's still a bad idea based on how shitty the climate is right now and also spending an absurd amount of money on a wedding is tacky and arguably unethical.

[sorryeden]

I agree. Weddings are annoying and expensive as it is. Now, I have to plan an entire trip around a couple?