Ruby Barker talks lack of mental health support in the workplace

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- Ruby Barker who plays the role of Marina Thompson on Bridgerton was on the LOAF podcast talking about her experiences on Bridgerton and her mental health

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[julieannie]

When I lost my job in 2020, this was exactly how I coped. I'd pushed through work on days where family members or my pet were in their final days. I'd rush back to work at 9 pm on a Friday if they needed me. I knew everyone's catering orders and family member's names and billing codes and could even tell when they were pregnant before anyone else at work, sometimes even before they told their own parents. When a lot of event planners lost their work in March 2020, I figured out a project that needed 400 man hours and immediately helped everyone pivot so our business could go on. And the thanks I got was being furloughed and then laid off.

I really had to do some self care and healing after that. I no longer identify myself by my job or measure my worth by the work I do. I log off when the day is over. There's nothing extra. I don't attach myself to coworkers. Everyone still thinks I'm smart, super competent, friendly, but I don't give it my all. I just expect nothing but a paycheck in return for my work and hilariously it has made me more in demand and I've leveraged it for higher pay than the job I sacrificed so much for. I know this current job has an expiration date and I just kind of don't care. I've saved a ridiculous amount now so I'll never feel as vulnerable as when I was fired. I live a much smaller life than in 2019 but it's safer and I won't ever be hurt like that again.

Re: I am posting the actual source video because it was hardish to find

[bluestoplights]

<3 sorry you went through all of this, it sucks that we really do have to learn the hard way.

we went through a leadership transition and what started as this culture of "we're all family, but some moreso than others!" of constantly getting drinks and working from the bar, walking my boss's dog and covering for them when they were too hungover to attend meetings, and trying to advocate for a higher salary while being told over and over i should be grateful for what i had and actually i was better off than everyone because i lived with someone who had their shit together.

anyway, leadership transition happened. someone i was friends with got fired right as they were able to leave for grad school and i felt terrible because i was basically offered to do their job on top of mine for more pay (and i did want to go more into that department). i offered her part of that pay bump i got because i felt so bad about the situation and told her basically everything. then another person got fired and then pretty much everyone except for a couple people left and were urging me to leave (nvm i couldn't find another job for the same pay doing what i wanted to do).

i tried to help unionize to be basically told because it wasn't helping everyone it wasn't worth it (because managers aren't in the bargaining contract). i was told i'd never be promoted, that i'd get screwed eventually. then another one of my co-workers got fired after basically pouting at work for a year and, uh, she told everyone that i was a mole who told our boss all of the information we shared in a groupchat. because our boss "knew she was unhappy" and duh, she said that in a groupchat so there was no other way for her to know. it must have been me.

i got booted from the groupchat, people said they had "good reason to believe" i was actually backstabbing everyone the whole time. people i invited to my wedding, people i trusted, people i was willing to give some of my fucking paycheck to when they were down, people who i repeatedly had to cover for because they weren't getting their work done.

anyway. i'm now in a director-level position, i don't ever miss a deadline, and i make good money and never again will i bend over backwards for co-workers or let my job control that much of my psyche. i clock in, i clock out, i have a direct report who i encourage to have good boundaries, and that's it. i'm much better off for it and like you said, it's safer.