Emily Hampshire Posts Apology for Depp/Heard Costumes

[ellie_andrews]

https://instagram.com/p/CzHcZs9xw0w

I want to address what is one of the most thoughtless, insensitive, and ignorant things I’ve ever done. For Halloween, I stupidly thought it would be funny to dress as Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. I am deeply sorry and ashamed for putting something that awful out in the universe. Domestic abuse is never, ever

Comments

[arabian]

When people screw up do we want them to apologize sincerely and admit their fuck-up or not? I mean, seriously? What's the point of people even trying if we're just going to continue to shit all over them when they immediately, sincerely don't backtrack, but all-out admit they fucked up as Hampshire did here?

It was 100% shitty what she did. She's acknowledging that. It seems she listened to what everyone made very clear to her. Hopefully this means she won't ever do something so heinous again and WILL THINK next time. Look, I watched the woman on Celebrity Jeopardy, she's a fucking idiot. I believe her when she said she didn't think.

[spoil]

I mean she can apologize and it's nice that she did I guess but that doesn't mean any of us have to accept it.

[arabian]

Of course, no one has to accept that, it just (sigh) it seems that so rarely are apologies or course corrections accepted/acknowledged (not just here) but in general. And it does make me wonder why would people who are in the wrong -- who clearly need to see the dang light -- look in that direction if they see others not given any grace?

It's just something I ponder when I see a situation like this. It's why I posed it as a question, not harping on any particular person or to any particular poster.

[goldenhera]

You should apologize and do better because you know you've harmed others, not to receive grace. I do think the internet can dogpile, even when people are sincere, but that's the risk when you commit harm. Some will never forgive, but if you are truly sorry, that shouldn't matter.

[xdecadentx]

If you only turn to doing the right thing because you want grace, you're not doing it for the right reason.

[xtear_drop]

I agree with you, the internet never forgives and it’s getting a little tiring to me where I’m at the point where I’m spending less time on here, on TikTok, on Twitter. It’s extremely rare that I see people online accept a celebrity’s apology. Everything is black and white these days-people online become too outraged very quickly and it’s incredibly easy to criticize someone when you are anonymous online. I would bet any money that those who are outraged by her costume, if they knew her in real life, would probably be more inclined to forgive.

[inmyhansonshirt]

She only apologized because she was called out and articles were being published about the situation. An apology would have been wonderful IF she specifically apologized to the abused woman she harmed, IF she made a promise to educate herself and learn more, IF she chose to make a donation to a domestic violence organization, IF she took action in some way. Just saying "oops that was bad" isn't really good enough, especially when it involves the further degradation and humiliation of a woman who has been mocked and humiliated on a global scale. In my opinion, at least. I want action behind the words.

[arabian]

Exactly! She was called out and she didn't ignore it or sit on it for a few days. I get what you mean, but here's the thing, she didn't have to apologize at all. She didn't have to say that it was one of the worst things she's ever done in her life. She didn't have to reflect on the fact that making a tremendously shitty Halloween costume meant anything more than that. But she did. She listened to what people said. She didn't gloss over it, she didn't brush it aside. She listened to the voices calling her out. There are plenty of celebs who would have ignored it or would have double-downed.

Could she do more? Yes. Should she do more? Yes. But she did something, and it brought attention to the fact that AMBER was a victim of domestic abuse.

With that said, I 100% am on your side, and that you are right. She should have done more.

[warwarwar]

Does she say somewhere that she feels Amber was the victim? Her statement above doesn’t specify, which means she could mean JD.

[arabian]

Very true.

[allmylines]

some of us are (or love) dv survivors so it’s a lil more personal than just “oh okay, apology accepted!”

i am glad that she apologized but it doesn’t mean we’re required to accept it. i’m sure plenty of people will. but doing harmful/triggering shit (that requires a TON of thought and planning, as op mentioned in their note) and then apologizing doesn’t counteract the action itself.

[arabian]

I never said that anyone needed to accept the apology, and those that don't, absolutely more power to you. It is why I posed it as a question and it was not directed to anyone in particular. I am sorry that you or anyone else ever has to suffer through domestic abuse (or any kind of abuse).

My query was about people not accepting when someone genuinely appears to listen when they fuck up.

[xtinkerbellax]

Other people probably don't see it as genuine

[arabian]

yeah, I'm picking up on that and really thinking how the hell am I still so naive to believe this kinda stuff? I mean I've been reading celeb gossip/news for decades and yet I still want to sincerely believe in the goodness of their hearts! It was a terrible, awful thing she did, right?! So surely she must feel absolutely TERRIBLE about it! Right? right?!?!

[allmylines]

it depends on the scale of the fuckup imo. if she had said something carelessly offensive or reshared a post it’d be one thing but this was a whole ass costume *including the wine bottle which was used to sexually assault amber.* if she was so intent on this costume, she could’ve at least kept it private/not shared it on main where it could possibly trigger a bunch of survivors.

like that is gross on so many levels, and similar to what other commenters said i would at least like to see her apologize specifically to amber and contribute to a relevant organization or something.

[xdecadentx]

I think my issue with this is it's not something said in haste, or something that came out wrong or even a youthful place of ignorance.

She's 42, she would have put thought and effort into the costume, knowing the nuances of the trial and she posted it thinking it was funny.

Like yes, it's good she apologied, but it shouldn't have taken people calling her out after she gleefully posted pictures to realise this was wrong. There is a fundamental lack of empathy to get to that point.