Karen Gillan Showed Up to Couples Therapy in Full Nebula Makeup

[just444]

In honour of Guardians of the Galaxy in theaters Friday, here’s a screenshot of the time I forgot I had scheduled a COUPLES THERAPY session on a day we were shooting. #GuardiansOfTheGalaxyVol3 pic.twitter.com/AdMdkJo2tf
- Karen Gillan (@karengillan) May 3, 2023

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she married Nick Kocher last year

they met on instagram:

Comments

[moon_river_315]

How funny!

I honestly think people should enter couples therapy immediately after getting married. You need to learn how to communicate before the issues start.

[goldenhera]

Yeah, I agree. If you've gotten married (or have otherwise indicated that your significant other that you're in it for the long haul), you have to know how to work through the issues that will undoubtedly arise.

[shiroi_yuffie]

Seriously even outside of marriage, the skills I've learned in couple therapy has been so useful for communicating with friends and family as well.

[theemetmelk]

Do you have some examples or what kind of methods they used in couples therapy that were helpful? I've only had bad experiences with therapy so I've now turned to self-help books and YouTube.

[shiroi_yuffie]

I'm terrible at explaining things but I think it's called reflective listening. It start with someone bringing up a problem, then the other person has to repeat what they heard, state how that made them feel, state what they would like to answer and then answer properly. Then it just goes back and forth.

I have ADHD so I tend to impulsively say everything that goes through my mind, trauma dump or get very emotional, and my partner is the opposite of me and struggle with his emotions so it really helped us get to the same level.

[beaucadeau]

shit, even before you're married

[helyanwe89]

I think some couples counseling is required by certain churches & you have to go before they agree to officiate the wedding.

[beaucadeau]

yep and a lot of other faith traditions will heavily recommend going to counselling too

[aprilbegins]

behold, something the church gets right!

[sprty]

when my husband and i picked our marriage license up last year they had an option where you could agree to couples therapy for a year and they’d waive your fee and the 72 hour wait time before you could get legally married. we both thought that was p cool

[jesuisjuan]

There was a couple who wanted therapy before getting married, like their own version of marriage counseling that religious institutions would do, and it really helped them. They knew how to communicate better and understand each other and even their own attachments, like their "inner children," and things regarding sex and children and cultural stuff were addressed. It really helped them, and I would totally do couples therapy myself before getting married. Personally, there are different types of couples therapy, but I'd rather go the Emotionally Focused Therapy route (EFT) and not Gottman Method. It just seems to be up my alley. If anyone wants book recommendations, I'd recommend:
- Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Gottman
- Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love

[sarahvma]

What you shouldn't do is keep saying "we should definitely go to couple's therapy" from the time you're engaged and then forget and wind up doing it while juggling a six month old baby during a pandemic.

As an example.

[forever_frozen]

My husband and I did a few premarital sessions (nonreligious, just a normal couples' therapist). It was helpful! We didn't really have any issues to address, but it was nice to just talk about communication styles and our priorities for the future and all that.

[wapiko]

This. I told my mom she and her horrible husband should go to couples therapy and she protested me by saying there's nothing wrong (which is a loaded statement in itself). It 100% needs to be normalized and not seen as a "last resort" sort of option.