you know i always advocate for couples therapy when my friends hit a rough patch with their partners, but i'm actually begging megan to not do that and just DUMP him.
Couples therapy can actually end up in divorce. It isn't just about keeping the couple together. Hopefully the therapist will lead them to that conclusion quickly lol
Yeah, my now-husband and I had a rough...year...lol, around five or six years in, and we did couples counseling. Our therapist told us from the first session that we shouldn't look at our sessions as us "trying to save the relationship," but rather as a space we could use to even figure out if staying together would be the best thing for both of us. And if we decided it was, then we were going to develop the tools necessary to communicate more effectively going forward. There was never a point at which it seemed like our therapist was rooting for our relationship, it was all about the communication.
Yeah, if a relationship is abusive, based on what people are suspecting, couples therapy can actually be more harmful. It's one thing if the abuse is situational or like a one-time thing, but if it's just consistent all the time, it can put any survivor at risk because they may further upset or anger the abuser if they disclose anything.
Couples therapy can actually teach an abuser how to abuse you more, between using what you reveal in therapy against you and the smarter ones keying in on how a therapist handles things and then taking that and twisting it to their advantage. If they are in an abusive marriage counseling will just make it worse :(
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Hopefully the therapist will lead them to that conclusion quickly lol
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