Anna Kendrick opens up about abusive relationship on Armchair Expert

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Incredible episode with @AnnaKendrick47 ❤️ Anna shares her very vulnerable story with us-we are beyond grateful for the trust and intimacy. Listen to @AnnaKendrick47 now on @spotifypodcasts 🍒🍒🍒 pic.twitter.com/04q9Kv8uCK
- Armchair Expert Podcast (@ArmchairExpPod) January 9, 2023
• Anna Kendrick was on Armchair Expert this week and opens up to Dax

Comments

[fernandocolunga]

Wow this is incredibly similar to the situation with my ex

There was an inherent thing of me being so rejectable that this person who loved me very deeply for six years, it suddenly occurred to him, how awful I was or something. That shame, that lingers much longer."

Man this hits hard

[yousaidlog]

I feel this so much. For the last three years that I was with my ex, I felt like I was the impossible one, that I was the one making things unpleasant. I look back and I'm like I tried so hard to make things better while he didn't do shit and still complained. But that lingering feeling that I'm too negative and draining to be around definitely remains with me.

[asnindie]

Same. I had this exact feeling when my 5 year relationship ended overnight. What I didn't realise was that the person had already decided to leave and strung me along till their next relationship was solid so they could jump without no real change for them. Looking back I don't believe I put up with that shit for so long.

[fernandocolunga]

What I didn't realise was that the person had already decided to leave and strung me along till their next relationship was solid so they could jump without no real change for them.

Holy shit this is exactly what happened to me. And I couldn’t understand how they could move on so fast and get into a new relationship immediately as I was traumatised but then I realised that basically they were planning this for a year and slowly moving on I just didn’t notice cause we were long distance for a bit. Men are insane.

[hardtrash]

Oof she did such a beautiful job of describing the mindset that comes from relationships like this. The shame is finally starting to chip off on me and it’s been two years and im in a new relationship with a seemingly (because you never know with men lmao - no but seriously after a bunch of therapy I can see he’s full of green flags so 🤘🏼) kind and stable and I’m still looking over my shoulder wondering when it’s going to blow up in a way where my foundation and reality is taken out from under me like before

[__onthebound]

I feel like I wrote her account. Abuse is SO isolating and when you are out suddenly everyone (fellow survivors) has a near identical experience. It is so hard. I wish I had known how to speak up. I felt like I was so lucky but just ungrateful for the person I loved when I was the problem. Of course I was the problem. If I wasn't so X or so Y...I had to change because it was my fault they couldn't love me and it changed so drastically.

Looking back there were so many signs, I just didn't know. I was so lucky to be chosen and love meant enduring until they loved you again. Those rare good moments that made you stay because you hoped for things to go back to "before"