Sean Bean Says Intimacy Coordinators ‘Spoil the Spontaneity,’ Decries Censorship

[hewontgo]

‘Games of Thrones’ Star Sean Bean Says Intimacy Coordinators ‘Spoil the Spontaneity,’ Decries Censorship https://t.co/ZdB85EqNry
- Variety (@Variety) August 8, 2022
Sean Bean says intimacy coordinators “spoil the spontaneity” of shooting a sex scene

Comments

[juunanagou18]

Somebody saying, ‘Do this, put your hands there, while you touch his thing… I think the natural way lovers behave would be ruined by someone bringing it right down to a technical exercise,

??? this is a job; a professional opportunity not sex between two lovers. oh my god nobody work with this man

[green_monsterx]

right?? not only that, youre a fucking actor, its your job to make it look spontaneous. be a better actor than, idk what to tell you

[cheerspinkears]

That’s a good simple way to put it. I hated what he said but couldn’t exactly articulate why lol and what you said hits the nail on the head. Even jobs centered around artistic endeavors are JOBS and bc of that you have to think about the well-being of your coworkers, you fucking pig.

You can give consent to something in general (i.e. allowing romantic contact bc you’re acting in a scene) but may not be ok with someone touching a specific place. That’s what intimacy coaches are for. To keep it sexy without crossing a line. The idea of having a problem with that is baffling and scary.

[howlin_wolf_66]

I could understand it if he said it makes things more difficult but it's necessary... However, this isn't that.

[skyler_white_yo]

I thought sex scenes were treated like fight scenes, where every move is choreographed. If choreographed, directed, and acted correctly, it can look natural and spontaneous. I’m not an actress, but I would not feel comfortable with someone who decided to improvise movements in either a fight or sex scene.

[devopet]

Yes, it's a bullshit excuse cause 1. Fight scenes are dangerous if you just wing it so hence the prep and work

2. Its ACTING. Having a director and crew and fucking lines of dialogue are just as unnatural to the moment in any other scene. That is the POINT of your job to take the unnaturalness of it all and ACT and prep so that the people watching can't tell.

[__onthebound]

This is why intimacy coordinators are so important. They make sure nothing untoward happens. Not that people approach it with ill intentions, but if someone like Sean Bean is caught up in the moment they can pull him back.

People often think they don't have boundaries beyond obvious extreme ones (idk...in this scene we can make out and faux fondle...) but an intimacy coordinator will ask about if you are okay with tongue. Things you might not think require discussion. The person who knows the best way to create undulations for the camera are from a big Pilates ball you sit on, not actually grinding against someone.

They're so valuable. It *should* be choreographed like a fight scene. It is still possible to improvise but also it keeps everyone safe and comfortable.

I work in consent and boundary activism and his comment makes me so angry

[squidlord]

I work in consent and boundary activism

Not to go off topic, but this is very cool/interesting to me! I'm trying to deepen my personal knowledge on the topic of consent/boundaries, and am always looking for things to read and study. Have you come across any helpful resources in your field that are shareable (books/links/etc.)?

If not, no worries-just thought I'd ask.

[__onthebound]

There are a lot of great educators on different social media platforms. I tend to aggregate my favourites and share them with my own opinion/commentary/experiences on a dedicated insta I run dort of anonymously? I Share my experiences but it isn't about me. It's about sharing the universality of abuse

[my_moloko]

Exactly. They aren’t lovers they are actors and it’s their job to follow the directions. It shouldn’t be spontaneous it should be choreographed.

[chase65]

I'm glad this comment is an early one. I could only be bothered to read that headline and this was my thought, exactly. It's work not a date, stop 'spontaneously' touching co workers.

[jojito]

Exactly! Can you imagine dancers saying this? "Choreography ruins out spontaneity!!"

It's your job to make it look natural FFS.

[cassismagic]