Protection order issued against Ricky Martin after alleged case of domestic violence

[shangri__la]

Emiten orden de protección contra Ricky Martin tras presunto caso de violencia doméstica https://t.co/Fzuj5YyBuQ
- Telemundo51 (@Telemundo51) July 2, 2022
With a heavy heart, I report the Puerto Rico Police have confirmed on Saturday that a protection order has been filed against Ricky Martin. A complaint was filed under Law 54, which protects

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[munchkin1616]

I can't imagine the experience for all who read this headline all over the internet and find comments defending him. While we don't know the details of this, we DO know that many victims of DV exist and read comments.

If you haven't suffered DV, please be mindful that people see your comments, including people you know.

If you have suffered DV, I send you peace as you try to block out these stories.

If you are suffering DV now, please please seek support in your community. Libraries offer connections to services and computers to search for services without anyone knowing why you went there and you can bring a book home and claim that's why you spent time there. Medical facilities often have contacts to offer if you go there to "visit a friend." You and your safety and your spirit matter. No matter what anyone has ever told you, this is not just how it is and you do not deserve to be mistreated.

Sending love to everyone. <3

[big_ang]

perfect first comment. thank you!

[t_snake]

Thank you so much for this perfect first comment ❤

[skyler_white_yo]

If there is one thing I learned, the people you least suspect of being an abuser, usually are, sad to say. Abusers work very hard to make everyone else around them believe they are good people, while targeting and harming their targets.

I no longer have the time or patience for stans to throw themselves into a frenzy to defend a person they don’t know. It sucks to be disappointed that a celeb you like isn’t all sunshine and roses they portray themselves to be. people need to stop woobifying these men, these abusers, because they are, or were at one time good looking/hot.

[missmagic12]

My mom was a lawyer and did a lot of work with/for DV survivors and my dad mentioned once that it was through knowing her and her work that opened his eyes to how many “good men” were abusers hiding in plain sight.

[munchkin1616]

When I hear how often people say someone "just lost their temper," I have to argue it. When you act like a decent person everywhere but at home, when you only take it out on a small number of people (or one person), if you are hiding where you harm (because you know the laws or so bruises won't show), you didn't "lose your temper," you have control of your temper, you are making choices.

A toddler loses their temper when they lose it in the grocery or at their favorite place or when they are tired. A person who is selective and secretive is making a choice. We can't ever let it be said otherwise.

[theylezharold]

I got out of a DV situation [TW: DV]over 2 months ago and I have hemorrhaged and continue to lose the last thousand left in my bank account on hostels and am now in a hotel losing what I have left bc I don't trust anyone enough to share a room or apartment with or even see a dorm. I'm stuck in that freeze mode of trauma, and this is way too expensive to be stuck here, and I wish I could control it. I'm in the state with one of the worst DV resources; they ONLY house women with children here. I did everything right, but they don't even do motel vouchers. Wow. I'm sorry if this is the wrong place, this just poured outta me and I feel a little better. And my "parents" aren't helping/were never helpful in anything, so this is no different. They know that I put up with a lot of DV with them growing up so ofc they don't see any abuse against me as abuse.

[veracity]

I'm so sorry. It's hard to leave because everything tumbles around. I haven't been in a DV situation but I moved an older neighbor in to get her out. It's hard when there's no protections.

[iburiedjohn]

I relate to this comment so much and it sucks you are going through so much. If you need to talk or rant, feel free to message me anytime. Growing up being abused/seeing my mom abused made me very skilled at suppression and dissociation so I never told/talked to anyone about the abuse ,even after I was out and that makes things even worse I think. But yeah, I’m here if you need anything

[theylezharold]

Thank you, that is so kind of you! Wow, I'm so sorry that you lived through that abuse as well. I feel less alone hearing about this happening to others and that others get through it and live better lives. I really appreciate your offer to chat, thank you 💜 I'll reach out.

I'm also getting over a sinus infection that I've had for weeks so I'm asleep like half the day but I know the stress of trauma and being homeless is keeping me sick.

[jgedlittlepill0]

please don't apologize for venting. i'm sorry you're in that position and i'm sorry your parents are invalidating you. i'm sending you love.

[theylezharold]

Thank you

[colorfilm]

yeah the financial/shelter loss is something DV survivors experience and thats rarely addressed. i had to swallow my pride and ask for help via fundraising online and it's such a humbling experience.

[munchkin1616]

While I don't want to invalidate your experience, I also want to point out that, while you felt "humbled," I guarantee you everyone who saw it thought, "what a badass! fuck yeah!" to you getting out and speaking up for yourself, especially knowing you'd been trained not to speak up for yourself in your most recent relationship. While you may look back on this moment as humbling, please know that many saw you as incredible and some likely saw you as the inspiration you needed. <3

[colorfilm]

i guess. i was kicked out in the middle of winter so, not totally badass i feel?

and the humbling was more like, when you fundraise for survival youre kinda publicly vulnerable and i guess bcos of how i was raised i see this as a weakness?

i do appréciate ur message tho!