Avril is engaged

[babarsuhail]

https://instagram.com/p/CcDl8mPpaLP

Avril Lavigne is engaged to rapper ModSun after a year of dating. The couple met in December 2020 after collaborating on a track together.

This will be Avril third marriage (if they make it to the altar).

[close up of the ring inside]

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[pretend_to_care]

I've always kind of railed against the institution of marriage while acknowledging that I would get married if there was some legal benefit needed for one or both of us. My partner was married once before (high school sweethearts, amicable divorce when they realized they grew up to be different people) and was similarly uninterested in getting married again.

Well, of course shit happened and we needed the legal protections that marriage offers. We got married about a month ago, and it's... fine? Nothing changed in our daily lives except health insurance and ensuring that we are both protected in terms of some financial things. Most of our friends don't even know yet.

I have several friends/acquaintances who have been married/divorced one-to-three times or have multiple engagements that were broken off before getting to marriage. One that stands out to me is someone I've never actually met but is connected to a few people in my life. She was married and divorced twice by the time she hit 30, and then she was deceptive about birth control/reproductive capabilities and ended up pregnant by a man she'd only been dating for about two months. He had said on multiple occasions that kids were a deal-breaker, so he ended the relationship and is only involved insofar as the law requires him to be financially. She is sort of a fascinating case study to me. She is the kind of person who makes those posts on Facebook about how everyone her age is into the hookup culture while she is looking for ~true love~. She injects Hallmark/Lifetime movies directly to the veins, and she typically tells guys she's dating that she loves them around the 2-4 week mark of dating.

It feels like a lot of my peers just love the idea of romance and engagements and weddings. They get easily swept up in it, but then they realize that a lot of the generations before us who create this media around the idea of love and commitment also push an agenda that you need to stay in the marriages no matter what. So, basically we are rushing to fall in love and get engaged and have the dream wedding, but then I also think we are less willing to stay in bad marriages than our predecessors.

(Sorry, I feel like I am rambling at this point, but seeing how many people around me have multiple failed marriages/engagements is fascinating.)