Playing all their songs all day today. I have been thinking about this lately, that for example in this case I cannot imagine how it feels for these women to lose someone they spent almost 24/7 with at one point in their lives. They knew it was happening too, I don't know if it's worse or better. RIP Sarah Harding.
Having lost people both suddenly and expectedly... I'd say it's no better or worse, just different (though I could understand if other people's mileage varied on that). When you know it's coming you don't get the same left field gut punch shock, but having to deal with the anticipation and knowing that the countdown's begun is hard. Especially as you get towards the end and every time you meet you're not sure there's going to be a next time
I agree with this. It's weird. I lost my dad very suddenly and of course lost it, but in retrospect now that I've had time to process, I think it was better that way because the anxiety and stress of knowing you'll lose someone...I don't think I would have been able to handle that with him. It's different for everyone of course; for me it's different depending on the person. But having to wake each day knowing this could be that last time you get to be with someone you love so much, that's a level of stress that no one should have to deal with, yet nearly everyone does.
With my dad---who was deathly afraid of death and getting sick and dying---knowing he had no real time to be afraid, it's an odd blessing. I do wish I could have properly said goodbye, but that's the trade off, I guess.
ITA with this--I always had assumed that if I knew someone was going to die, it'd be easier and it isn't, it's just different. I lost my uncle when I was a teenager and even though I knew it was coming, it STILL hurts. His passing still upsets me to this day and part of that is that he was gay & closeted and unable to be out and share his life wholly with our family. He was robbed of a full life and true happiness, I think that is what I still mourn. But I was able to say goodbye and that has brought me comfort in the years that have passed since. One of my grandfathers passed away recently and when we knew the end was near, I was able to say my goodbye. Even though I cried like a baby at the funeral, after it was all over I felt a tremendous sense of peace because we closed that chapter in the stories of our lives, together.
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With my dad---who was deathly afraid of death and getting sick and dying---knowing he had no real time to be afraid, it's an odd blessing. I do wish I could have properly said goodbye, but that's the trade off, I guess.
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