"It's not a one-person job," says
@ReeseW of being a new parent. "I would even say it's not a two-person job."
https://t.co/J9uHTC9cQw- TooFab (@TooFab)
August 31, 2021Reese Witherspoon was just 23 years old when she became a wife and a mother in a very short span
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I strongly agree with parenting not being a two people job. That saying, it takes a village, really says it all Imo.
I know in the US the culture isn't like that but in most other cultures raising kids is a family thing. Like grandparents helping out. Aunts, uncles. Close friends. Etc. We're not meant to go through this shit on our own.
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What are you talking about? We have gofundme's for medical care all the time!
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But seriously, you're right, we're a mess.
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Huh? Everyone has their families help out. The only constraint is distance. Some people don't live near any of their family members and may not have friends who can help. I don't know a single person who hasn't had help from families, especially with newborns.
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i had a shit childhood which was why i wound up with 3 sons with 3 different fathers, none of whom helped. i've been a single mom ALWAYS. my family didn't really help at all. like - at all. so i'll be damned if my sons (or their prospective significant others) ever feel alone or helpless. that's not how to help your family succeed, and isn't that the point of even HAVING a family? to help each other feel better, do better, be better?
sorry, you got my "just finished my first cup of strong coffee" rant
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My parents work full time and are/were raising their adopted son, who is their biological grandson/my nephew, a toddler at the time. I totally understand why they did not have much time to help me. My husband's family were busy being extra parents to my SIL's two (then 6 mos and 2 years) because her shitty husband left her while she was pregnant with the younger. I nearly died the week after I gave birth from complications and I was thankful and grateful that they were able to scrape it together so someone could be with my son at home while my husband advocated for me at the hospital, but after that, we were on our own. Like it or not, we were "more stable" than either of the parents of our niblings, so we were not the priority.
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for example, in many countries the grandparents will parent almost full time so that parents can still work.
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