Tiffany Haddish is ‘on’ the adoption process, hopes for an older child

[hewontgo]

Tiffany Haddish is 'on' the adoption process, hopes for an older child https://t.co/5lzMb6DoH9 pic.twitter.com/vI8l0XAMwl
- Page Six (@PageSix) June 2, 2021
Haddish, 41, who was in the foster care system growing up, said she has finished the parenting courses required to begin the adoption process. She expressed her desire to adopt an older child

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[ginainabottle]

I'll ignore how problematique she is (mostly bc I'm sure all of you will continue to bring up) and focus on the fact that adoption stories usually make me happy ♡ if most people were focused on the parenting aspect instead of being hung up on spreading their genes & have a mini-me, more kids would have a chance at a happy life. I know adoption isn't easy at all, but it warms my heart seeing stories of (seemingly) loving people who chose it. Just the other day I was rewatching the video of that little girl opening a gift she got from her soon-to-be parents saying she was their child, that made me smile-sob so hard.

I also appreciate that Tiffany is choosing an older child.

And don't @ me with wank, I have to work.

[ginainabottle]

I chose to focus on the subject of adoption instead of Tiffany adopting bc my procrastinating gossip thirsty ass wanted to add my two cents while the responsible part of my brain knows I can't have a debate right now bc I'm way behind on work. But I absolutely agree with you.

[joe_pwnz_pete]

"But it's not the same" but it's not? I fully advocate for adoption and fostering and want to eventually do so myself but I've also known people who've adopted and foster parents and acting like it's the "easier" option to have children is patently and abjectly untrue. Fostering and adoption come with their own pitfalls and emotional traumas as does going through the biological process of childbirth. I currently know someone dealing with their own adoption process falling through for the 3rd time. Foster families who have raised children from birth losing those children.

Having your a biological child can quite literally be the "easiest" option most of the time in regards to family planning in comparison. I have no issues with fertility and really want to adopt if I wanted more children, but the sad fact of the matter is it's very likely no adoption agency will touch me because I have a misdemeanor weed charge from when I was 19.

[joe_pwnz_pete]

Yeah that's definitely shitty and I know what you mean in that people can be so dismissive of the idea at all. (Sidenote: I find a lot of correlation between men who always want a puppy vs an older dog and men who only want bio kids and refuse to consider adoption!) I also think feelings surrounding parenting are very complicated and a variety of factors can be involved in those decisions and idk if I want anyone who thinks it's that different to be taking in adoptable kids. I think at that point we get into the "people should have to have a license to have children" debate because if they feel that way about an adopted child, who's to say that they're perfectly well-adjusted and able to have bio kids?

[lone_concertina]

You wouldn't be turned away from adopting because of that. My husband had two DWIs from his 20s and we adopted in his 40s. He included in his letter of interest that he had realized the errors of his youth and adopted protective measures to prevent himself from ending up in those sorts of situations again. Our agency said anything older than 10 years isn't really an issue unless it's a violent or child-related crime.

[analievelyn]

Interesting you make this comment after abandoning your bb Chanco icon!!

👁

[ginainabottle]

TOUCHÉ.

[dalpaengi]

as an adopted poc that’s befriended other adopted poc, I wish I could have this perspective even 65% of the time. I can say that I’m thankful the white family that wanted to adopt me fell through (they found out I was sick) and that I was raised by people that look like me.

I’m still happy you’re moved by adoption videos. That’s so relieving to hear because I’ve heard really sad opinions about adoption. I think it’s ok to have a complicated perspective but it’s rough when people say adoption opens a family up to accepting a “bad seed” They watched too much Good Son.

[ginainabottle]

I'm glad your experience turned out to be good <3 The idea that a child is "easier" to love just because you share a DNA is so bizarre to me, and further highlights how most people are in no way fit to be parents. As if DNA has ever stopped anyone from killing, mistreating or abandoning their parents when they're sick or old. I'm fully aware adoption isn't for everyone, and it sure can be a long, draining & expensive process, but knowing that you actually chose/were chosen by the child you're going to raise and love is really beautiful to me.

[itsme_eloise]

my dad is a judge and adoption days are his FAVORITE. he wears silly ties he buys at thrift stores with like, crayons all over them or something.

[iamsam4eva]

i want to send your dad a silly tie. he sounds like such a sweetheart.

[ginainabottle]

aw, your dad made me momentarily forget I'm a misandrist! lol <333

[marsdiamonds]

I used to follow the stories of the disabled children adopted trough Reece’s Rainbow and how much they improved so fast after adoption made so emotional. I’m aware now that there is many problematic aspects about their adoption process, but I’m still happy for kids that found better homes.