Tiffany Haddish is ‘on’ the adoption process, hopes for an older child

[hewontgo]

Tiffany Haddish is 'on' the adoption process, hopes for an older child https://t.co/5lzMb6DoH9 pic.twitter.com/vI8l0XAMwl
- Page Six (@PageSix) June 2, 2021
Haddish, 41, who was in the foster care system growing up, said she has finished the parenting courses required to begin the adoption process. She expressed her desire to adopt an older child

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[raffriff]

Came here to say this exactly.

“ All I want to do is pour knowledge in … get them ready for the big, bad world.”

What kind of narcissistic delusional objectification

[lone_concertina]

This is reaching. I'm an adoptive parent and met my 12-year-old son a year ago yesterday. You say things like "get somebody that's older" because there's no way to answer peoples' questions about why you don't want a baby without wanting to shake them, so you deflect with casual phrasing like that. I'm constantly asked this by strangers and the only response I ever have is "did you enjoy potty training?" because everything else in me wants to say "fuck you" to them dismissing my kid as less than a baby.

[skyler_white_yo]

Exactly, if a child older than 5 is or has been in the system, it’s not going to be easy peasy insta-family.

[ginainabottle]

It could be. But babies and toodlers are still the most sought-after when it comes to adopting, so at the end of the day it's wonderful when someone is open to welcome an older child into their lives. Tiffany (and no other adopter) has the obligation to pick a baby just so they don't "skip the difficult stuff". There's still a child there who needs to be raised, whether they're an infant or not.

[ginainabottle]

And I'm not talking about her comment, I'm talking about how you chose to word it assuming she's "looking for an easy ride" when there's nothing easy about raising another human being, regardless of the age they entered your life. Especially if that human being comes from a background you know nothing about, and might have faced traumas and hardships you're not equipped to deal with. Learning to use a restroom or communicating is in no way the "difficult stuff" compared to that.

[artemis_a23]

that's what I thought she would say before reading, but she does not mention that at all and it's the opposite, it comes accross like she doesn't want to deal with teaching basic stuff to a kid

[ginainabottle]

Tiffany sounds clueless for sure, but I'm talking OP's assumption that picking an older child means an easy ride, and that the basic things Tiffany wants to avoid/skip are actually the difficult stuff, when they're clearly not. I know it's hard not to pick apart what Tiffany said since she's so problematic, but my issue here was with the implications of OP's statement.

[littleredmill]

I figured it'd make sense for her to adopt a child a little older because a baby or toddler below the age of 5 is going to require a lot more personal care and time and she may not be able to commit to that because of her working schedule.

[marsdiamonds]

And also, when you assume the responsibility over another human being for life be aware that a number of things can go wrong along the way and they may need all that help. Sickness, accidents, institutional delays and many other factors may cause her child to no be what she seems to expect from a child.