Drew Barrymore Says Having Children Changed Her Opinion About Working With Woody Allen

[celja]

"I was gaslit into not looking at a narrative beyond what I was being told." https://t.co/MfPpvk2iTl
- BuzzFeed (@BuzzFeed) May 18, 2021
Drew Barrymore is saying she now regrets working with Woody Allen. She starred in his 1996 film Everybody Says I Love You

Comments

[helethmiel]

Oh well that makes perfect sense, thanks for sharing!! As a woman with no children, I have no humanity nor empathy for others--ESPECIALLY children.

[martymcfly85]

Don't you know. We will never know what it truly feels like to love or care about another human being because we don't have kids.

[abbiemills]

Where did she say that?

Having kids painted her own experiences in a new light and opened her eyes to all the lies she'd been fed at the time. That's... normal.

[helethmiel]

I admit that I have a huge knee-jerk reaction to people having to experience a situation to understand. That said, I am glad Drew gave Dylan the platform to address what happened to her and hope Woody Allen's career crashes.

[littleorcs]

It makes me mad that empathy is so hard to come by tbh, like I'm glad you know now but like you ought to have known before your own personal experience with it too, moral imagination is a thing

[theactualworst]

She was an abused child who went through many fucked up things as a child star. Obviously having her own kids would give her new perspective.

[helethmiel]

You're right, and as an SA survivor I had a knee-jerk reaction. I'm glad Drew gave Dylan a platform to discuss her experience.

[sadteenager]

I'm so sorry that you went through that but as a survivor of CSA, I also want to give you snaps for having the self-awareness to recognize where you're having a reaction based on a trigger/hyper-vigilance. That shit takes WORK and you should be proud for coming so far. <3

[misscrystal]

I haunt the r/raisedbynarcissists sub and I see this sentiment so often.

Even for people who realized their childhoods were messed up it just "hits different" (to borrow a term from the youths) when they have their own kids.

[theactualworst]

Yeah I was raised by an abusive narcissist and I thought my childhood had been normal. It wasn’t until I got older and moved away and would tell “funny” anecdotes from my life that people started being like “umm girl that’s not funny are you ok?” It still took me 28 years to say out loud that I was abused.

[bethmai]

LOL come on now. Stop being so obtuse.

[pwrpuffgrl]

Wade Robson said in the Leaving Neverland doc that it wasn't until he had a kid he knew he had to do something about everything that happened, I mean...

[insomniachobs]

That's wholly normal for grooming victims, and it's not down to a lack of ability to empathise unless it's about you. Quite the opposite - you lack empathy for your younger self, because your abuser groomed you out of recognising your own feelings and experience as valid in favour of their warped version. That learned behaviour of suppression and rationalisation continues on well beyond the end of the actual abuse (you've been trained to cover the abuser's tracks for them)... until something external prompts you to really re-examine it.

People can get very old before that moment comes for them, but having children frequently does it. Parenthood makes you think of your own youth, and suddenly you're viewing that world through a lens of what you yourself would or wouldn't allow as a parent. Empathy for your own child reawakens your empathy for that kid you were

[pwrpuffgrl]

Exactly. That's why some of the comments showing that lack of empathy towards Drew's comments are sad tbh.

[rhapsodeeinblue]

First thing I thought of

[howlin_wolf_66]

It's different when you're talking about recognising your OWN abuse, versus somebody else's, though ...