Lizzo Drops Conscious TikTok

[hewontgo]

Lizzo says that she, along with others, are "working to dismantle a system that oppresses fat people."https://t.co/wizB7PYK6N
- HotNewHipHop (@HotNewHipHop) April 14, 2021
Lizzo has made an effort to promote body positivity and stop people from fat-shaming others

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[blahblahcakes64]

Lizzo is one of my fave tiktok accounts to follow. <3

Sadly, my sister has gotten really absorbed into fatphobic thinking-she was posting snotty stuff about Krispy Kreme giving free donuts to vaccinated people. Ironically, she's a #positivevibesonly Bible verse poster too, so 🙄 (*ETA: actually I guess I'm not that surprised; when we were kids mom used to tell us we'd have to watch what we ate once we turned twelve...)

[blahblahcakes64]

I'm so sorry to hear that! I hope you're feeling comfortable and happy (or neutral!) in your body. <3

[merci_beaucoup]

I’m sorry

[theflyers]

Argh, I grew up with a close friend who had anorexic tendencies thanks to the shit her mom put in her head about body image.

I thought she was better as we got older. I made a comment at one of my low points and admitted my bulimia. And she was in horror...great reaction, right? HELL NO, her response was "Don't do that! It's bad for you, you should just be anorexic instead."

Like it's the same as choosing a brand of water. RME.

Thankfully I just have mild body dysmorphia and have gotten my ED under control for a long time now. But that was bad shit and one of the many reasons I cut her out of my life.

I'm so sorry that you and your sister were raised with that garbage idea in your heads.

[blahblahcakes64]

"Don't do that! It's bad for you, you should just be anorexic instead."

Oh NO! I hope she's doing okay, and I'm so happy you're doing better.

For whatever reason, I was born with/developed the urge in my brain to realize (generally) that my mom's perspective was very warped. (This is part of the reason we no longer speak.) When I started college she told me I was overweight, and now, almost 15 years on, I have to laugh, because I'm probably 40ish lbs heavier now?...and I'm fine. I'm totally fine. I like how I look and feel, I'm active, I'm in a wonderful marriage. I just wish I could kiss every person with a toxic mom on the forehead. <3

[theflyers]

I have learned over the years that there are two ways that children go when their parents have these kinds of impaired thought processes.

They're like you and they are like "That doesn't seem right, I'm going to not agree with you." Or they follow suit in that way of thinking.

This is how my dad broke his family's cycle of being racist clowns. He was raised with that nonsense and was always like "that's stupid, why would you hate someone because they have a tan?"

My mom also point blank told my dad if he ever said a damn thing about my weight again, she'd leave his ass. And that was not something she'd threaten lightly to say the least and he knew it. One not even that bad comment at like 14 and she squashed it like a bug.

He tried telling my brother "Boys don't cry" as a kid too and my mom was like "My boy cries when he feels like he needs to cry. So shut up." My mother did not break the cycle about being a bullbuster, all the women in her family inherited that ;)

[gillenvillain]

It started for me as a teen (my mom had weight issues as a kid and didn't want us to be that way but went overload). I wasn't even over weight really (I was 5'10 at 14) I was just bigger than everyone. Always felt I weighed too much.

Plus my introvert/anxiety shit kicked in by that time and made it worse about myself. Never had a positive body outlook and combined with low self esteem going to school with some seriously fucked up bullying assholes. Ugh...

Then I met others that it started when they were 8. JFC.

[blahblahcakes64]

I hope you're feeling more settled in yourself these days. <3

[gillenvillain]

I appreciate that. I think anyone that has anxiety like this. It doesn't go away. We just try to maintain on a daily basis.

I honestly don't know how kids today cope with social media. I'm so glad I didn't have that as a 90's kid.

At least with social media, it's nice to know other people feel like me. Not being alone and feeling weird about it. Others go through this shit too.

[stillingfleet]

hugs bb <3 I feel you about being bigger than everyone around me - I was 12 at 5'6" growing up in an asian city (i.e. most girls around me are half a head shorter) and doing ballet. I was definitely made to feel like I was gigantic and my ballet teacher used to do fucked up shit like stick her hand between my thighs while we stood in third position and wriggle her hand about in between my thighs. ostensibly this was to show I was not pulling my thighs together strongly enough, but looking back on that 20 years later idk how I just accepted it (actually I do - because I was a CHILD).

[gillenvillain]

I wanted to dance ballet so much but I was too tall. I tried some theatre and I was always too tall (because all the boys were short as fuck) too. Sucked. I hit 5'11 at 17. They tried to get me to do basketball, volleyball but I'm horrible at sports.

Just a big ass bean pole of a girl.

[stillingfleet]

bb, I got that basketball / volleyball thing as well growing up (and equally I suck at sports). HUGS so bad.