Today marks the 20th anniversary of BTVS 'The Body' and Willow/Tara 1st kiss

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Today marks the 20th anniversary of “The Body,” an episode that explored grief and featured Willow and Tara’s first kiss. (via @literElly)https://t.co/czICGoXR7u
- Bitch Media (@BitchMedia) February 27, 2021
-As the title suggest, today marks the 20th anniversary of Buffy The Vampire Slayers groundbreaking episode of 'The Body' wherein Buffy deals

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[queencersi]

I came here just to say this!
I never forgave Willow for using spells to mess with Tara's memory.

[hannahstarr]

the show definitely glossed over how abusive that was, too. I stopped liking Willow at that point.

[nemophilist]

Oz should have come back and helped out with the final show down and they just became good friends or something. Willow shouldn't have had a romance in season seven after almost ending the world over Tara's death in season six. It made no sense.

[fromyourashes]

it was like 9 months after tara died when she met kennedy which makes sense to me, if you apply the whole "the world is probably ending for real this time and i just went through magic rehab and why not try it," thing that was happening in s7.

[fromyourashes]

i've lost two people i was in love with. for me, the second time, i started dating about 4 months later bc i needed a distraction or i'd probably have just gone off the deep end if i spent one more night alone. some people move on, some people don't. people (and crappy tv characters) deal with grief in a myriad of ways. unless you're willfully hurting someone else, how you deal with grief is never wrong.

but where willow was concerned, it makes sense bc if tara was really the love of her life, she'd have treated her like that. it was easier for her to move on bc she didn't really love tara as much as the show tried to make out.

[fromyourashes]

your point is helping my point, though. she clearly grieved, and much harder than other people would be able to. she killed what killed her love (which we generally don't get to do), which i think helped a bit in her grieving process. i mean, she definitely wasn't "over" tara, as evidenced by the fact that she turned INTO warren while dating kennedy.

she was a selfish and narcissistic person who treated people badly.

ia 100% and sitting here defending her actions is anathema to how i normally discuss willow rosenberg lol. willow and xander are tied for my least favorite characters. they were both mostly trash people guided by trash opinions and garbage motives.

[ahkna]

Willow was on the straight man re-marriage track. Wife #1 dies, he's married to the next one before the year is out.

[fromyourashes]

(trying to keep in mind this is a fictional character and not take opinions to heart on a personal level)

this made me think of patton oswalt and the hate he got and this amazing post a woman wrote about it.

some good bits she wrote after losing her own husband:

How long should a widow sit in isolation before YOU are comfortable enough to release them from their solitary confinement? Because it’s really about you isn’t it? You aren’t actually concerned about the heart of the person who has found the strength and courage to love once more. You’re worried about your own offended sensibilities rooted in old Victorian traditions. Stop pretending you are actually concerned about their “healing.”

So please, if what you have to say about a widow or widower finding love again isn’t supportive and encouraging then keep it to yourself. (although i have to be a hypocrite and say that there absolutely is something true about men needing to move on quickly after a spouse dies simply bc they don't know how to take care of themselves and cannot

[katheli]

that's definitely true. There was a woman in my country who lost her husband and all three of their children in a car accident and was on the news for how horrible that was, I think within half a year she was dating another widower with kids and got a lot of hate for it. But she did come out and say she knew finding someone else was her only option because she could not have gone on for much longer waking up alone and grieving. so idk about healthy or unhealthy methods but people shouldn't judge too harshly