Mary-Louise Parker & Ron Swanson hereby declared Colin Kaepernick's parents

[aprilbegins]

Mary-Louise Parker and Nick Offerman will star as Colin Kaepernick’s adoptive parents, Teresa and Rick Kaepernick, in Ava DuVernay’s limited series Colin in Black & White. pic.twitter.com/WeKuThYX3w
- Netflix Queue (@netflixqueue) November 18, 2020

These are the real-life Kaepernicks:

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Comments

Transracial and Transnational adoption

[analievelyn]

Do yall know any people that experienced this?

How was it for them?

Re: Transracial and Transnational adoption

[babyyoda]

Me

I think we’ve talked about it, it’s traumatic af tbh and it led to a loss of identity, confusion about my identity, feelings like I don’t belong in either culture I’m a part of like I honestly feel like I still don’t belong to any one culture but if I hadn’t been adopted and my grandmother had raised me I know I would have those roots and I don’t think I would continue to have such a continued feeling like I don’t belong anywhere.

Re: Transracial and Transnational adoption

[babyyoda]

Hugs 💕 it is difficult to not fit in to either group and if you ever want to talk my DMs are open.

In my case I am mainly white but I look neither white nor part black which is what I am. if anything I look Latina and growing up no one knew what I was because my mom lied on my adoption papers so it was assumed I was part Latina and I dealt with being called slurs Latinas are called. honestly that’s only added to the confusion i feel around my identity. It was a huge relief to meet my bio dads family as a young adult and get some answers but there’s still a lot of feelings like I don’t belong.

Re: Transracial and Transnational adoption

[ghastly]

My friend is mixed-race (black & Mexican father, white mother,) and he was adopted by a white woman who flew across the country (literally) to adopt a mixed-race kid (in the late 80's.)

She's always been a good mother to him but she does think it's okay for her to use some slurs because "my son is black," which....

Re: Transracial and Transnational adoption

[babyyoda]

This is unfortunately not uncommon and it’s unbelievable damaging. Awhile back my adoptive dad “jokingly” said someone was what they used to call in the old days a “good n word” except he said the N word and I freaked the fuck out. Like they do not realize or care how wrong it is to be racist period but especially when you have a TRA in the family.

Re: Transracial and Transnational adoption

[babyyoda]

My adoptive dad is unfortunately an old evangelical white man who voted trump. it’s been really hard to deal with but being close to my bio dads family keeps me sane, especially my bio aunt who is a very liberal feminist.

Re: Transracial and Transnational adoption

[babyyoda]

Thanks! I have long since grown up and gone to therapy for being raised by a racist southern baptist but at times it’s still difficult so I bitch about it here on ONTD :)

Re: Transracial and Transnational adoption

[ghastly]

Oof, I'm sorry. My friend's mom is very liberal, and has been her whole life, but definitely has some fetishization issues about mixed-race people that bother me. She's been loving & supportive of him through all of his many challenges (including 3 years in a maximum security facility for... A second offense of possession of weed under a gram,) and she's always been wonderful to his friends, but it's like she falls just short of understanding how harmful some things are.

His biological father was apparently abusive and his biological mother is now a bible-thumping, cop-worshipping Trumper, so the bar was in hell.

Re: Transracial and Transnational adoption

[frankthesheep]

I don't know her personally, but this is a different perspective

Re: Transracial and Transnational adoption

[envyisbaggage]

Transracial adoptee here - Mestizo Latina raised by an Irish/Swedish family. I have come to terms with the fact that there will always be a “disconnect” in my life. At times that disconnect feels huge and at times I forget that exists. I’m very fortunate to have adoptive parents who do their homework. While it hasn’t been perfect, they’ve listened to my feelings even when the conversation has become incredibly uncomfortable and have always supported my limited efforts to search for answers. They even supported me when I needed to cut out certain family members due to their racism/sexism etc

Re: Transracial and Transnational adoption

[aprilbegins]

I’m very fortunate to have adoptive parents who do their homework.

I'm very glad to hear that. My heart is in foster/adoptive parenting and I feel lost when I see comments against transracial adoption because it leaves me wondering what I can or should respectfully do. I'm a white woman and I think it would be morally wrong and very racist to only be open to adopting/fostering a white child.

So.... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Re: Transracial and Transnational adoption

[envyisbaggage]

You have to be really honest with yourself when it comes to raising a BIPOC child. During the the childhood years, you are going to have to be the advocate and get into those nitty gritty conversations. My mom had to deal with a lot of racist shit from her own family and had to learn to be an advocate for me. My dad has always been pretty blunt to a fault and has no problem putting people i their place. Children are such a sponge; I know I definitely learned how to navigate my way through the world by watching my parents. Best of luck to you, bb <3