I don’t think he was high or whatever. He’s just.... his usual self being silly and whatnot. I mean, he could’ve smoked some fire weed and just blabbing away (his bday was recent), and whatever but I don’t think he was lyin about his sobriety nor trying to profit off it. Like why would anybody lie about sobriety.... like what do you gain that alone from?
At first I thought due to his bday that he dgaf and go on OF which was obviously random but dam son this got too deep 😅
i hate to sound like one of those ppl who is all "this is what happened in my situation so there it applies to ALL situations" cos i really don't meant this in that way! however, i am a recovering addict, i've been sober for just over 5 years now, alcohol was the main substance i abused, and when i got sober i was stubborn and still wanted to see friends etc so i would go to bars and clubs. like...literally put myself in the worst possible place, i'm sure people thought i had relapsed, but i didn't and what's more, it wasn't even "triggering."
this isn't meant to sound preachy cos obviously i don't know your personal circumstances but basically what i have found is that some of the situations i thought would trigger me or make me want to relapse just don't, and that the urge to relapse hits me at the weirdest times, like when i'm feeling content and watching netflix in bed. it could be that he has had the same experience and has not relapsed either.
thank you very much! one of my friends who is also in recovery is incredibly triggered by seeing anyone use/drink alcohol or drugs, she can't even watch it in films or a tv show, so very similar to your family member. it's really interesting how different triggers can be in addiction and i agree with you, it's so tough and i wouldn't wish it on anyone. i hope you, your family, and your family member are all doing well.
also would like to add that i just read gloeden's comment below and this: "They think, often, very often, incorrectly, that it means they've overcome and just live life like they used to, with no changes, convinced now that they'll never use again." is iNCREDIBLY accurate when it comes to how i first approached sobriety, tbh. i wanted to prove that my life could be normal and that i could carry on living exactly as i did before, minus substance abuse. it was playing with fire and it burned me out and i have to say that my lifestyle is very different now. i can be somewhere where people are drinking and it's usually ok, but i generally do stay away from places that include heavy alcohol or drug use now (mostly it's because i have accepted my addiction and recovery a lot more. when i first got sober there was this almost honeymoon-like stage, a "high" of "omg i'm sober i am SO CONFIDENT in my abilities" and obviously that wanes with time, haha, and you focus more on the practicalities of living day to day life w/ an addiction and how to
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At first I thought due to his bday that he dgaf and go on OF which was obviously random but dam son this got too deep 😅
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this isn't meant to sound preachy cos obviously i don't know your personal circumstances but basically what i have found is that some of the situations i thought would trigger me or make me want to relapse just don't, and that the urge to relapse hits me at the weirdest times, like when i'm feeling content and watching netflix in bed. it could be that he has had the same experience and has not relapsed either.
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