Big Sean Says He Never Would’ve Made ‘IDFWU’ If He Knew Ex Naya Rivera Would Die So Tragically

[stewie_e]

Big Sean Says He Never Would've Made 'IDFWU' If He Knew Ex Naya Rivera Would Die So Tragically​ https://t.co/2bUiQiBOYp
- People (@people) September 2, 2020
In a new interview with New York Magazine, Big Sean, 32, said he would have “never made” the track “I Don’t Fuck With You” had he known ex-fiancée Naya Rivera’s life would come to such a tragic

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Re: Making Amends

[geneforrester]

covid hadn't but a few years ago (2016 i believe it was) i realized i was really shit at telling people i loved + cared about them and i didnt want it to be that way and so i made it my resolution that year to be more openly grateful verbally to people and situations in my life. and i've just carried that energy from then until now - if i think about someone i immediately let them know, or try to every once in a blue moon write nice letters for my close friends to tell them how much i care and appreciate them and say i love you very unabashedly and often. it's crazy that i only started doing that a few years ago but it's one of the things i've done that i truly think has ushered in a stark positive change in my life and improved a lot of my friendships bc we understand how important we love + care for each other even when we're upset with each other it can make those arguments a lot easier to work thru bc we know it's worth it and we do want what's best for each other even if we go about that differently.

all this being said, my best friend from high school who i had a growing apart from and hadnt talked to in 2 years aside from happy birthdays sent me a text a few months ago saying bc of covid she realized how much she missed me and how we're hoping (when both of us feel comfortable and regulations are right) to have coffee together in person within the next few months, which is sweet

Re: Making Amends

[they_marry]

This was really nice to read. How did you start doing this? Sometimes I can see myself being a really shitty friend, especially after losing a lot of important family members this year. I'm also not very good with expressing my feelings unless it's anger.

Re: Making Amends

[geneforrester]

i know im like a week late replying to this but tips on ushering in gratitude and love in your life i think are always warranted! so i hope my delay is okay
basically my first step might seem weirdly massive lol but on nye i wrote a note to the friends that i felt like had the biggest impact on me that year - it was maybe like 6 or 7 people total and i wrote 2-5 paragraphs for each of them telling them the things i appreciated about them, the qualities they had that i felt they had that i admired, and just sent the texts on their way - every person i sent something too said that it was incredibly thoughtful and sweet and hearing their reactions to something like that made me realize that it feels good to make them feel good! and since opening that kind of door, i just do certain things like that more often, and in a lot of smaller ways such as if i think of a funny memory about a friend i text them and are like "hey just thinking of when we did this! such a blast, love you miss you!" to let them know im thinking of them.

i hope this helps!! <3 expressing vulnerability and emotion, especially before it becomes something you normalize, can be so so so difficult. but knowing that my community of people have got my back and love me as much as i love them and when you express something, usually a lot of times you get similar feedback back from your friends too, which is where the improved communication comes in too.