Ryan Reynolds on Plantation Wedding with Blake Lively "A Giant F*cking Mistake"

[madamezuzu]

Ryan Reynolds has addressed his controversial 2012 wedding to Blake Lively https://t.co/naPQhocd7k
- Los Angeles Times (@latimes) August 4, 2020

Ryan Reynolds has finally addressed his 2012 wedding to Blake Lively that took place on a plantation. In an interview with Fast Company Reynolds remarked, "It’s something we’ll always be deeply and

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[r4wrdinosaur]

OP, what do you mean, you notice no apology there? You literally copied and bolded the apology in the post. "It’s something we’ll always be deeply and unreservedly sorry for. It’s impossible to reconcile."

[madamezuzu]

it's hollow. saying sorry without addressing anyone isn't an apology to me. *shrugs*

[bellwetherr]

yeah it might not be a great apology but he does literally say he's sorry lol

[nomoneyfun]

People calling this an apology demonstrate how whiteness is so effective at veiling racist behavior under the guise of innocence. If someone was careless with your pain, you would not be satisfied if they said “I’ll always be sorry for the pain, it’s impossible to really make amends.” It’s not an apology, it’s him saying they will always suffer from their choice to be careless!

[mightykitesftw]

Wow I'm so moved by the grand apology that he gave us, he really poured his heart out and seems to be genuinely sorry /s

[cheeseasauras]

I appreciate that he’s at least acknowledging that it was wrong but I don’t understand how it took until *after* their wedding for them to see a plantation for what it is. I can’t help but feel like it’s a hollow apology but maybe I’m just a cynical bitch?

Idk I’m not southern so maybe I’m missing a piece of the puzzle but idk how anyone can look at former plantations and not see them for what they are: the site of generations of torture and murder.

[nomoneyfun]

They didn’t care. They knew it was a site of horror, they just didn’t care. I’m sick of people not being honest that white supremacy and racism aren’t just the product of social conditioning, they’re active systems and behaviors people actively participate in for their own pleasure and enjoyment. Being racist feels good. Ignoring people’s pain feels good. People should just be honest. They didn’t care people had suffered on the plantation they chose for their wedding because those who suffered didn’t look like them.

[mercystars]

I'm white and grew up in Alabama (70s/80s), and plantations and plantation life were so thoroughly romanticized and sanitized, while the grim reality was completely swept under the rug. Slaves were infantilized and dehumanized in ways that still exist for black people today (black people being misdiagnosed medically and their pain not taken seriously because of hisoric racist beliefs that they can't experience pain the same as white people, as just one example). Racism plus white supremacy plus capitalism. Then you have school systems glossing over everything ("Oh sure there were slaves but then the Civil War happened and its all over now"), and people not caring one way or the other because "That happened 200 years ago, get over it already!" And as nomoneyfun pointed out, lots of white people just don't care and won't ever care because it never effects them.

[ghastly]

I'm from a small town in Texas, and have ancestors who owned enslaved individuals. Family history is a hell of a thing, because the family lore was that one of my ancestors was the first in his county to allow enslaved individuals to worship at the church he built. They don't talk about how that side of the family also has a minuscule amount of African DNA, so there was rape, too.

Plantations were taught like, "This was just a beautiful old house, and it's historical!" and it'd be rephrased as "They had servants" and not "slaves," like people were being paid for their work. It legitimately took until I was in high school and reading a book *on my own time* before I realized that enslaved people were not "servants."

[black_swan87]

it's wild to me that plantations aren't seen as the concentration camps they are. like imagine someone holding a wedding at Auschwitz

[madhler]

And that's why people think nothing of hosting events at plantations.

[theactualworst]

It's really true. I guess because they are aesthetically beautiful but it's no excuse.

My personal favorite is when someone will say the history of a specific place isn't bad because "they were nice to their slaves" mmmmkay.

[kerosene_pill]

"they gave them free clothes, room, and board in exchange for labor around the property! They even let the kids play with the family's kids! They treated them like family!"

[hypermuseic9]

sounds like a whole lot of nothing to me