Charlie Hunnam Is “Indifferent” to Marrying Girlfriend of Over 13 Years: “She Doesn't Feel the Same”

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Charlie Hunnam Is 'Indifferent' to Marrying Girlfriend of Over 13 Years: 'She Doesn't Say the Same' https://t.co/xJSg6akftM
- People (@people) January 14, 2020
On Monday, Charlie Hunnam sat down with SiriusXM channel Radio Andy and revealed if he and longtime girlfriend Morgana McNelis will tie the knot. Joined by his “The Gentlemen” co-stars Hugh

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[numara]

getting married when one of you is openly indifferent and the other is "very eager" sounds like they might as well hold the reception in a divorce lawyer's office

[locksuperpower]

Lollll I love this

[summerswings]

Doesn't that just mean he's not invested in the institution of marriage? Which is fair, but then if one of you is super invested, and you don't care either way, it does make sense to just make them happy. She might be ready to have kids but has a traditional family or whatever and doesn't want disapproval.

Or she just wants the white dress, which tbh a lot of women seem to. I hate how 'feminism' is so common but when it comes down to it women mostly all still wanna be married, and are willing to change their surnames to the man's. That in particular makes me so upset and is really such an unjustifiable tradition.

[champagnemami]

I think when that goes on for 13 years, you’re probably headed for a divorce if they get married or he’s stringing her along and it’s never going to happen. If he was truly indifferent, they would be married already.

[maidenhell]

We do a lot of things because of "tradition" but most don't look critically at why we do them in the first place (or who benefited most from implementing those social rules in the first place). All social constructs that are in place were developed by men (mostly white men).

I have no desire to get married but if I did, I sure as hell aren't changing my last name. I've always felt very strongly about that.

[ems]

Getting married is pretty important if you don't plan on remaining 100% financially independent (in the UK at least). There's no way I would have combined finances with my partner without the protection of marriage, especially when it came to me having a baby and the damage that does to your career unless you are really determined to avoid that (ie by taking minimum mat leave, working full time, never taking time off when your child is sick, always being available to travel / work overtime etc). Without marriage he could leave her whenever he wanted with nothing, despite the fact that she no doubt facilitates his career by doing the "wife work" for want of a better word. Marriage is protection.

[gracefulstalker]

Yes to your first paragraph. I used to actively not want to get married, but then I became indifferent to it. When me and my husband (lol spoiler) had early conversations about having kids, it was important to him to be married first. Not for any religious reasons, he's just a romantic and that's what he had always imagined. In the end it was more the whole proposal/wedding thing that he had to convince me about rather than marriage. And it turns out if you do everything on your own terms, it's really special.

In the back of my mind Charlie Hunnam is a misogynist or racist or evolution denier or something so I'm not defending him at all, just contributing to the larger conversation.

[veggie]

i wish hyphenation was more common/not seen as strange. i'm in a weird space; i'd like to go with a future spouse's last name just because i'm not super close with my dad and not crazy about my last name. i've thought about changing it to another family name, but my maternal grandmother was an absolute monster so i wouldn't want to be saddled with my mother's maiden name, either. i wonder if there are couples who just pick an entirely new last name together lmfao. i'm at the point where i just want to draw a new one out of a hat or something tbh

[esearcher]

I know couples who created a new last name out of both of theirs, or both took the same hyphenate. My sister's husband has some kind of complicated history with his last name, like his mother had him adopted by a step father after he was 18 or something weird like that. Since he was back in touch with his real father, he was going to change his name, so my sister was waiting for that to happen to change her name, in the end, neither did.

I don't think not changing your name makes you any less or more married.

[andisprohi]

lmao

[thespockingdead]

LMAO it's true!

[theactualworst]

Yeah there’s nothing wrong with him not being into the institution of marriage but the tone of this spells doom to me tbh.

I also hate the idea of someone proposing to me as a favor.