Jada Pinkett Smith admits she use to find Willows's tears offensive" Red Table Talk"

[jemgirl90]

It took some healing for her to close the distance between them 👀https://t.co/ZTSp8Q8NZB

- HotNewHipHop (@HotNewHipHop) November 6, 2019

- Demi Moore and her daughter's Rumer and Tallulah were on " Red Table Talk" to talk about addiction and healing.

- Rumer told a story about a back to school night that left her in tears after being bullied and

Comments

[keepitcrispy]

lol no, that's like the central conflict between me and my mom. She was emotionally neglected as a child didn't break the cycle. I was always told to take my tears to my room, that nobody wanted to see that, etc. Not a lot of (or any) hugs or I love yous. Now I'm a 24 year old extrovert who doesn't know how to make friends. lol any other survivors of black parenting?

[winterbam]

My mom was neglected that why, so she tried really hard with me. We had our ups and downs, but we were tight. When my daughter was born she kept that same energy with her. And she always reminded me that we had each other.  My dad on the other hand has always hated that and everytime he saw me he'd tell me us being so close was weird and would try convincing me it wasn't healthy. But as I've gotten older I realized he was jealous, still is jealsous and doesn't know how to express that, so he tries convincing me we're the unhealthy ones.

[brokecouture]

I don’t know your relationship with your dad but don’t be afraid to be the one to start building that bridge if you feel he’s jealous and wants to be close with you. I know it can be hard and painful.

[crazyspaced]

lol here - my mom was never emotionally available. I def remember being a curious and outspoken child, but then as a preteen/teenager, constantly being rebuffed by my mom (the main caregiver), that all changed. I remember trying to talk to my mom about my depression as a teen, but she was not trying to hear it. I became this super anxious teen, now adult, too afraid to share thoughts and feelings with even the closest of friends.

A few years ago, I had a stint in the hospital for mental health issues. After my time there, she has become a bit more aware of how her actions have affected me and contributed negatively to my mental health, but she still doesn't really get it. She tries a bit more now with the hugs and I love yous since I've moved away, but I kinda feel like its too late now. It doesn't make up for the damage that was done growing up, especially since its never been fully acknowledged.

[summerswings]

I guess it would be really hard at trying to form a habit to actively do that, if she's never done it or thought to do it? I feel like it's so hard for parents who came from homes who did that, or homes where they were abused or just not always feeling safe, so they kinda feel like 'well as long as my kids have food on the table every night and no one abuses them, thats a lot better than i had,' and they maybe don't think critically about the other things a kid desperately needs

[thebopqueen]

my dad was the softy who supported me emotionally and was the breadwinner who travelled 6 months out of the year

my mom was horrible to me emotions-wise and shamed me for “acting white” from 3rd grade to the middle of high school. she eventually realized maybe keeping your kid in southern all-white private schools leads to them being different than their cousins who grew up in north philly

granted, it took me until 8th grade to realize that white people ain’t shit and are fucking racist as hell

[sandstorm]

My mother tried, but even as a child I was the distant one in that relationship.

[brokecouture]

I can relate. I was always distant even as a child. She was rough around the edges, not very nurturing, more like a father than a mother if that makes sense and I was a hyper-feminine child. My mom still to this day loves to talk about how I was like 2 years old and wanted to be in my own room with the lights all the way off, no night light, with the door shut away from everyone.

[iznanassi]

survivors of black parenting lmaooooo

i'm not sure if my mom intended to be like that but i think more our personalities were complete opposites so she didn't and still doesn't know how to deal with me in a healthy way, i often feel like i'm raising her and not the other way around. she likes to claim being a "nice mom is for white people" but all she ever was was an authority figure and never really my mom.

[anagramofbrat]

yep. I was pretty much not allowed to express anything inconvenient or embarrassing to my parents. Still working on how to express frustration or anger without burying it and how to ask for help without feeling like utter scum.

[iluvpans]

My mom got that as a kid and I talked to her. My granny's way of showing love was with food and for my mom, because I was such a hugger, we started hugging and telling each other I love you. I still need hugs and I feel better when I get them from family and friends. I don't know how to make friends which is odd because my mom and sister hang out with their coworkers. Meanwhile, I look at mine and think, "Which one of you is gonna get me fired?"