Busy Philipps Reveals She Considered Divorcing Husband Over Uneven Parenting Responsibilities

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Busy Philipps Reveals She Considered Divorcing Husband Over Uneven Parenting Responsibilities https://t.co/vnBNzd7kws
- People (@people) October 3, 2019
In an interview with Harper’s Bazaar, Busy Phillips and her husband Marc Silverstein open up about their 12-year marriage and how it has evolved since they became parents. Busy and Marc are parents

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[xtinkerbellax]

I can imagine it's infuriating to basically feel like a single parent in a marriage. Women feel inadequate too but they step up and do it anyway. Men need to grow up.

I definitely wouldn't have another kid with someone who said that to me though. I'd rather regret not having another than have my spouse resent the child, that's a gamble I wouldn't be willing to take.

[quiet_storm]

Sounds quite a lot like an excuse. Didn’t Russell Brand say something like his wife just knows what to do? Useless an babies.

[merel_93]

Same. Men can fuck off when they feel like it but women feel more responsible for the child. I mean, as we should! A child is a big ass responsibility and any man has got to step up. Any parent will feel in adequate at times, but that's better than not even trying

[zazie_toujours]

:| "it's all on you" is a shitty thing to say if your partner wants a pet, but a KID? jfc

to be positive cricket and birdie are the cutest weird celebkid names i've heard in my LIFE

[astorpl]

they really are the cutest weird names ever

[alienjiive]

Y'all are crazy there ain't nothing cute about the name Cricket lmfao

[groundcrown]

mte what in the world

[ms_mmelissa]

I feel like the older I get the more I become a misandrist or whatever because I literally do not understand the point of marriage and children and how it benefits women. You are expected to put your body on the line, give children your husband's last name and then do most of the physical and emotional labour of raising children while also maintaining a job.

Stats say that women in heterosexual marriages are the most unhappy people. Like... I get how wonderful companionship is but irl I know very few happily married women.

[eveofrevolution]

[ms_mmelissa]

Yuuup. It's really telling that when a woman gets married, her life expectancy goes down but her husband's goes up.

I've seen this irl with my parents. My dad has had health emergencies and my mom rushes to take care of him. My mom has health emergencies and I am the one who steps up to take care of her. I don't trust him at all anymore when it comes to her health.

[eveofrevolution]

[just444]

i've seen that happen in so many couples i know irl, great plans pre kids on doing everything 50/50 and in the end it's always the woman doing most of the childcare and keping the household running

[disasterboss]

it was def shitty of him to respond that way and it was shitty how he clearly wasn't contributing equally in terms of the kids/household...

but idk how you see that, are considering divorce over it, but decide that's the perfect situation to bring a second child into. some people aren't meant to be parents tbh. like if you're partner is not being a good parent and pretty much point blank says that they don't want a second child, don't have a second child with them? women need to love ourselves more and also be more discerning about who we want to make a life with.

like marriage/kids imo aren't worth feeling like you're alone in a relationship. if you have a partner they should be a partner.

[zazie_toujours]

yeah i just--- i see women younger, prettier and more successful than me every day with men who are so fucking shitty, like such actual trash, my fairly undesirable ass wouldn't touch them with a pole, CAPING for them, MOTHERING them, and i'm like--- why?? why why why why??? like some times it sucks to be single! for sure!! but holy shit how doesn't hoovering around some emotionally unavailable old pig who won't PARENT HIS CHILD suck CONSIDERABLY MORE?? and i feel like if you're an attractive young woman you're gonna have a lot of options down the line, like hold the fuck out for a mans who actually deserves you?? lol it makes me sad

[disasterboss]

and i feel like if you're an attractive young woman you're gonna have a lot of options down the line, like hold the fuck out for a mans who actually deserves you??

i honestly feel like despite all the "progress" we've made as a sex that many women still feel like they are running against the clock--that they have an expiration date, no matter how attractive, young or successful they are. and its such utter bullshit. its a lie that makes women settle for men far beneath them because society has told us that being alone is scary and shameful, and that its impossible to be happy single. its garbage! i will never settle for a man who isn't what i want--i don't want perfection, but i know what i want. and my desire for motherhood is not tied to him either. we gotta liberate ourselves, man. its generation after generation of unhappy girlfriends, wives, and mothers and we gotta stop it.

[zazie_toujours]

i could not agree more and i will join you on these barricades. ngl i'd like a man but if he's not going to be kind, honest and respectful i know for a fact i'll be fine on my own.