this hearts not parts garbage is eye roll inducing. idk when sexuality turned from purely being about sexual attraction to the convoluted mess with all these off the wall made up sexualities but i hate it.
what happened to you like dick, pussy, both or neither
lol right, this is a much simpler way of saying what i said, kudos. like, there really are NO other options besides those, idg why we have to parse down sexuality until every single person's is unique.
to everyone who believes pan isn't realnikuruJuly 22 2019, 22:24:49 UTC
I'm pan and trans. Hi. I'm someone who likes people for who they are and not what's in their pants. I also like all the bits listed as well as like the bits that are different from those listed. Being pan is accepting your partner for who they are on the inside and on the outside (especially if that outside isn't cis/het normative), that's very real.
I'm not invalid, I'm real and if you hate me or my sexuality, not sorry--you're the one suffering needless hate. I can and do ignore it at this point because I'm looking for hearts not farts.
Re: to everyone who believes pan isn't realcrystalzeldaJuly 22 2019, 22:35:11 UTC
I have to say, I’m genuinely baffled that your implication (or really, statement) that accepting you partner inside and out is something specific and unique to pansexuality like people of other sexualities... don’t do that?
Re: to everyone who believes pan isn't realnikuruJuly 22 2019, 23:27:31 UTC
tbh im finding i need to learn some stuff. i need to understand things better than I do and find more resources to get educated from because as of criticism from page 3 has taught me the ones I learned from were ignorant :(
Re: to everyone who believes pan isn't realcrystalzeldaJuly 23 2019, 01:57:37 UTC
That’s fair and I respect your process. Don’t want to invalidate your feelings but it’s fair to say a lot of discourse, if you will, surrounding pansexuality defines it in a way that is often dismissive/disrespectful and even untrue towards other sexualities. But we’re all learning as we go on stuff like this.
Re: to everyone who believes pan isn't realnikuruJuly 23 2019, 02:41:57 UTC
I don't feel like my feelings have been invalidated. Tbh it's become very clear to me that that it's dismissive of other sexualities and the people I talked to were too. It was like "we're special because we care about everyone no matter what and the others...they don't, they're not inclusive like we are."
I was very blind to fall into that, to become what I fear, to hurt people, insult them by assuming they can't love who they love no matter what. It's opened my eyes to think what else am I being ignorant about. What else am I doing that's hurting people?
It's a lot but I'm going to take it all one step at a time and correct myself to be the open, honest, loving person I want to be. Ty for talking to me.
I learned a lot today. I'm sorry it was at your and everyone else involved expense. :(
Re: to everyone who believes pan isn't realzhariaJuly 22 2019, 22:45:21 UTC
you do know that people who aren't pan do this too? this is why pansexuality rubs people the wrong way, it's very condescending. i'm bi and am attracted to all 'parts' - but this does not make my sexuality more woke or enlightened than someone who only likes vaginas or penises.
Re: to everyone who believes pan isn't realnikuruJuly 22 2019, 23:49:02 UTC
I am sorry for my ignorance. I understand what I said was wrong. I hadn't even considered it because I learned from a crappy source that honestly, I've found today was probably biphobic. I spouted some straight-up bullshit in this post. I need to broaden my knowledge so I don't keep saying ignorant and hurtful things like I have today.
Re: to everyone who believes pan isn't realzhariaJuly 23 2019, 03:07:02 UTC
that's okay! that's hella big of you and I hope you find acceptance and love on your own journey with your sexuality, don't ever feel bad for not knowing things as long as your intentions are good and you change and grow. <3
Re: to everyone who believes pan isn't realohmylolJuly 22 2019, 23:15:13 UTC
i'm sorry but attraction is based on both, the body of the person and the personality and the implication that pansexuals are more "woke" because they see beyond the body is shitty, i'm bi, it's not that i don't care about the "parts" of the people, is that my sexual orientation makes me feel attracted of people of both sexes
Re: to everyone who believes pan isn't realnikuruJuly 22 2019, 23:52:07 UTC
ty for commenting and saying these things. I was very ignorant today. I said some stupid stuff and have been rightfully called out. I'm sorry for my ignorance. I am learning and I will continue to learn so I don't spout crap like this again.
what happened to you like dick, pussy, both or neither
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I'm someone who likes people for who they are and not what's in their pants. I also like all the bits listed as well as like the bits that are different from those listed. Being pan is accepting your partner for who they are on the inside and on the outside (especially if that outside isn't cis/het normative), that's very real.
I'm not invalid, I'm real and if you hate me or my sexuality, not sorry--you're the one suffering needless hate. I can and do ignore it at this point because I'm looking for hearts not farts.
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i need to understand things better than I do and find more resources to get educated from because as of criticism from page 3 has taught me the ones I learned from were ignorant :(
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I was very blind to fall into that, to become what I fear, to hurt people, insult them by assuming they can't love who they love no matter what. It's opened my eyes to think what else am I being ignorant about. What else am I doing that's hurting people?
It's a lot but I'm going to take it all one step at a time and correct myself to be the open, honest, loving person I want to be. Ty for talking to me.
I learned a lot today. I'm sorry it was at your and everyone else involved expense. :(
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I said some stupid stuff and have been rightfully called out.
I'm sorry for my ignorance. I am learning and I will continue to learn so I don't spout crap like this again.
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